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That is my main hostility with chivalry. Men are expected to do everything and women ain't expected to do .
Reciprocity is the courteous thing. People who are always on the take are rude. Of course women should thank the guy and make generous gestures from time to time. If a gentleman's efforts aren't appreciated, he should move on. That's one way he can separate the wheat from the chaff.
I do think the female equivalents of chivalry have all bur disappeared. The return sentiments of a home cooked meal, baked goods, something knit, the mysterious "I have a pair of tickets to ___, would you escort me" are really pretty much gone. I do get cooked for from time to time, but its breakfast the morning after (and yes, I appreciate it), but its more an afterthought.
Absolutely not so, timberline. I love doing the female equivalents of "chivalry," and I know I'm not the only woman who does. Not by a long shot.
I love to cook, for example, and I always have, but it's so much more fun to cook for a man who appreciates it.
That is my main hostility with chivalry. Men are expected to do everything and women ain't expected to do .
Oh what crap. Women do nice things for men, just in a different way. Why are always so confrontational and arrogant about women is more the point to this thread. You hate the basic niceties and blame women for everything. Why is expecting a man to treat a woman nicely so abhorrent to you?
That is my main hostility with chivalry. Men are expected to do everything and women ain't expected to do .
Women are expected to carry and give birth to your children. Last time I checked, men couldn't do that. Your main role was to be the provider, but now that women work too, that's no longer your sole responsibility. But you want to complain about chivalry?
Oh what crap. Women do nice things for men, just in a different way. Why are always so confrontational and arrogant about women is more the point to this thread. You hate the basic niceties and blame women for everything. Why is expecting a man to treat a woman nicely so abhorrent to you?
I bet you that for the right woman, our hero would suddenly find himself pulling out chairs and opening doors. One of these days, a woman will come along who totally blows the OP out of the water, and has him babbling like an idiot. He won't know what hit him. But that day is a ways off, yet.
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I bet you that for the right woman, our hero would suddenly find himself pulling out chairs and opening doors. One of these days, a women will come along who totally blows the OP out of the water, and has him babbling like an idiot. He won't know what hit him. But that day is a ways off, yet.
I once thought so Ruth but there is a lot of anger there and that's really starting to show itself lately. While he hangs on to that he will never find a woman, he'll always find something to dislike about them and they in turn will be put off by this belligerent demeanour.
I once thought so Ruth but there is a lot of anger there and that's really starting to show itself lately. While he hangs on to that he will never find a woman, he'll always find something to dislike about them and they in turn will be put off by this belligerent demeanour.
I've noticed that. I still have hopes that at some point, he'll get some help in working out his issues. I think the OP could be a great guy. Somewhere deep inside that linebacker's exterior is a heart.
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Absolutely not so, timberline. I love doing the female equivalents of "chivalry," and I know I'm not the only woman who does. Not by a long shot.
I love to cook, for example, and I always have, but it's so much more fun to cook for a man who appreciates it.
I never said they don't like doing so, or that they don't have fun doing so. Modern life doesn't really allow for it. It has all but disappeared. At least in places I've lived. Working 60/80 hr weeks in a professional rat race isn't conducive to it. I know very few people, even those that love cooking, that have time to actually cook or eat at home. The closest they come to it is watching iron chef or whatever on an ipad on the commuter rail.
I don't begrudge it. I made a decision I wanted out of that a couple of years ago. It was a 20k+ pay cut, but a less stressful life. I was fortunate to not have six figure student loans, no family to support, and what not and could make that decision. Most people I know can't.
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