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I would have to say they missed a chance. I don't do 2nds.
If I try to connect with them, and they snub me. or if I make clear they I like them, and they reject me, then I don't accept them back in. They have no reason to come back and try to "reconnect" when they didn't want to the 1st time. Only reason is because they're desperate, and you're the backup option for lack of anything better.
It's kinda like that "friend" you hang with with all your better friends are busy. I believe I was that at one time. But I no longer speak to the girl. So, that's better.
So I cut off people who reject me in any way, and want nothing to do with them afterwards.
I would have to say they missed a chance. I don't do 2nds.
If I try to connect with them, and they snub me. or if I make clear they I like them, and they reject me, then I don't accept them back in. They have no reason to come back and try to "reconnect" when they didn't want to the 1st time. Only reason is because they're desperate, and you're the backup.
So I cut off people who reject me in any way, and want nothing to do with them afterwards.
I tend to agree with the bolded, but also wonder what the "attempts to reach out to them" were. Were you being obvious and direct with your interest or coy and hoping they'd figure it out?
To me ignoring and silence is a no. When I am interested in a woman I will express my interest in her to see if she has any in return. The only 'no' I can accept without my heart turning cold is if she already has a BF. The other kind of no I can accept without turning cold is if its clearly her and not me for her reason to not date and she explains it to me. Once my heart has turned cold toward a woman from lack of returned interest on her part, its hard to feel anything for her again. Even though deep down inside I think it would be nice if we were together, I have trouble getting over the fact that she didn't want me then; so I don't want her now.
I am curious if men and women feel different about past flames that didn't show back any interest that make a reappearance.
I tend to agree with the bolded, but also wonder what the "attempts to reach out to them" were. Were you being obvious and direct with your interest or coy and hoping they'd figure it out?
I am very direct when it comes to expressing my interest in a woman. There is no mistaking my interest when I show it.
Through small talk if I am getting all negative vibes from a woman then I don't bother asking her out. But if I am interested she will know it.
Since Im attracted to the person and they have poor communication, she just would not be seen as dating material but more of a friend. So I would accept her invitation to have coffee but I would know not to take her seriously at all
I would say, oh, you'd like to treat me to lunch, dinner, etc? What did you have in mind? I wouldn't be mean or ignore her. I'd meet up and hear her out or see what's up.
If she contacts me and asks me out, but then wants me to foot the bill, I'd be like, huh? What am I, a soup kitchen?
To me ignoring and silence is a no. When I am interested in a woman I will express my interest in her to see if she has any in return. The only 'no' I can accept without my heart turning cold is if she already has a BF. The other kind of no I can accept without turning cold is if its clearly her and not me for her reason to not date and she explains it to me. Once my heart has turned cold toward a woman from lack of returned interest on her part, its hard to feel anything for her again. Even though deep down inside I think it would be nice if we were together, I have trouble getting over the fact that she didn't want me then; so I don't want her now.
I am curious if men and women feel different about past flames that didn't show back any interest that make a reappearance.
I like the graph.. I think it is accurate... passion fades.. it's a reality of life.
The new and upcoming is the bigger and better.. always will be..
That's why basing a relationship on sex physical attraction is poor poor judgment. That attraction will fade.
If there is a mutual intimate relationship emotionally and spiritually there will be growth where the physical goes away.
It's just a reality of life.
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