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Originally Posted by cyrine
I just don't have any explanation on what is happening with me right now.
Might have just believe that soulmate really exists. Does'nt have that full interests in reincarnation or soulmates thing. What i believe is that, everything has to be have a reason and explanation and the answer will always be in yourself. There is no such things as "its just happened and cant help it". Everything can be controlled, whatever the situation may be
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I do not know the sole purpose for you posting this thread, but no, everything cannot be controled....
You cannot control how your parents raise you
you cannot control the fact that you have a sickness or disease
you cannot control how other people feel
you cannot control the weather
you cannot control how others treat you, but you can stay away from them
you cannot control what others think...and this list of mine could go on and on
don't get me wrong, my mother was a marvelous person, a very giving person...independent and a great mother and friend...but...as we all do, she had her faults and one of them was, when she couldn't control a situation, she became overwhelmed and as she grew older, this controling obsession of hers, actually stunted her mental growth. She was convinced whatever she decided was the right thing to the point that she controlled to many other people in the wrong way....
i.e. her neighbors worked nights, and slept during the day. My mother didn't work, so, in her senior years, like any other elderly person does that doesn't work and keep their mind occupied, little things became big horrendous problems...so, the neighbors cat was an outside cat...and it was cold out...and early in the morning, say 8 - 9 their cat was outside crying to come in...my mother, knocked on their door, woke them up and gave them their cat....
she would care so much for others, she actually interferred and once, her neighbor and life long friend went into the hospital, and my mother had her key to the house...she went over and not only cleaned the woman's house, but threw things away that she shouldn't have touched....
She didn't mean any harm, but was a very controlling woman...and you can over do this to the point that you don't allow others their time, their mistakes and their decissions in life.
No, you cannot control everything, yes, you can control a lot, but there are some things you can't and you just have to let them be and not think you can and act out...
Controlling your own situation is one thing, but controlling others isn't being concerned about their hearts. You must allow others their time, their happiness...there life.
If you make any decission which is going to hurt someone else's heart, life, you could possible change their life, for the rest of their days, they could never trust people again, b/c of you, or they might even take their life, in desperation, b/c they gave you their trust and you threw it away...and that my friend, is the pay off, b/c what you dish out to others, h owever you make or break their hearts, will come back to haunt you two fold...believe me.
If you make a decission with only your personal gain or selfishness in mind, then you are bound to hurt others, not just your hubby, you, your children if there are any, your parents, his parents, friends, etc. Your decissions will inevidibly effect everyone who knows you, and what you are in control of, is...that you have a choice, to affect others in a positive way, or a negative way, and if you hurt others, then, you hurt yourself...and....will live in pain for the rest of your days....
Does that make sense?
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