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I am a widow two years out, married for 43 years. I feel that it is time to break the mold and find a new me. Right now I feel as if my husband and I led a pretty dull life, even tho we boated and cruised and saw a bit of Europe. Vacations skiing, wine country tours, etc. Obviously now I am not as active physically…a few aches and pains here and there.
What I am seeing is men between 65 and 70 saying they have an athletic build work our 3-4 times a week, love hiking, camping…they say they are very active….ok…most of the husbands of my friends are not at all like this. They want slender women who can keep up with them…..Are they for real.
I have talked with one 70 year old man who just had cataract surgery. I think at this age we may have to get togethers between Doctors appointments and knee surgeries.
This is all so new to me, I felt confidant New Year's Eve when I signed up, but now I am not sure if this is worth it. I really just want a casual relationship…dinner, movie, conversation.
I'm a little younger than this but I'd be real on my profile in what I'm looking for but also join some Senior groups where I believe you'd have better luck.
Many of the men I know are either unrealistic and expect a 40yo or they are looking for support and a mother.
Why not work both angles and take it as it comes. Most men our age realize the comforts of a good relationship is valuable.
At this age, a man who is mentally and physically in decent shape is in big demand.
My widowed FIL had the widows beating down his door.
I've never online dated but I think a lot of what you read in profiles is just BS, especially the stuff you mentioned. Of course there are older people that are active, but again, a lot of what you're reading might be stretched truths.
I think you should be able to find a decent guy that is older that likes to keep it casual and isn't scaling Mt Everest.
I've never online dated but I think a lot of what you read in profiles is just BS, especially the stuff you mentioned. Of course there are older people that are active, but again, a lot of what you're reading might be stretched truths.
I think you should be able to find a decent guy that is older that likes to keep it casual and isn't scaling Mt Everest.
Best luck to you.
I'd have to agree. Lots of people "pad" their online profiles (and it's not just men, although since I date men, that's what I mainly saw).
I never dated men in their 60s, but I did date older men in their 50s from online dating. I probably had bad luck, but ALL of the ones I dated who claimed to be athletic, in shape, had the body of a 30-year-old and what not were really stretching the truth. Men with pot bellies and stocky builds listed themselves as "athletic." Or men who couldn't walk without getting out of breath said they "worked out" 4-5 times a week, etc. I really think some older men do this in an attempt to attract younger women. I don't know why, after the first date you can tell if someone is in shape or not. I guess it's the same mentality of women who are severely overweight trying to bill themselves as average or something.
Now granted, other men are telling the truth. There are a lot of very in shape older men; but I'd take what you read in any online dating profile with a grain of salt because you really can't tell who's honest, who's stretching the truth a little, and who's out and out lying. If you see a man and find him interesting, give it a shot without letting all his physical claims worry you.
And please do join singles groups and such for people your age if you are looking to meet a man your age. I made the mistake of joining such a group for people 35+ and it ended up being mainly 60+ and there were plenty of nice, single men (it was just too much of an age gap for me).
Among the older single men are two groups. Those that give up, generally very overweight, and struggle to complete even the minimum of daily tasks. The other group realize that exercise is an absolute requirement to be able to function as an active senior citizen, to be mobile and do fun things. This group may look for women with similar mindset as a nonsmoker will look for a nonsmoker. Same age women in this mindset are in very high demand.
I'm a little younger than this but I'd be real on my profile in what I'm looking for but also join some Senior groups where I believe you'd have better luck.
Many of the men I know are either unrealistic and expect a 40yo or they are looking for support and a mother.
Why not work both angles and take it as it comes. Most men our age realize the comforts of a good relationship is valuable.
At this age, a man who is mentally and physically in decent shape is in big demand.
My widowed FIL had the widows beating down his door.
I did online last between 39-41 and the amount of men 60+ who contacted me was astounding. Talking hundreds. Why they even thought I would be interested is beyond me but in some of their cases many were never married, childless men who probably thought they were too good for the women their age (most of the women had kids).
I would never date men that age but so many did think they were "athletic" when in reality they weren't. Quite a few were obese and a few admitted they had health issues.
My impression is that truth is never advertised, and instead must be inferred. An intelligent person would never say, "I'm smart and witty, and seek a woman/man who'd be able to maintain stimulating conversation with me". An aficionado of fitness would never say "I work out X times per week, run 5 miles before breakfast and tame wild horses every other Thursday". This isn't to imply that all good athletes are humble and self-effacing. Rather, a person genuinely dedicated to some course of self-improvement, would regard that course as natural and ordinary, unworthy of explicit comment. I value getting a good night's sleep, as being important for health and emotional balance. But would I write, "Crucial to my day is time-budgeting to block a full 8 hours of sleep"?
Beyond the bravado and vain claims of men whom the OP might encounter online, I'd posit that her prospects are actually quite promising. Why? So many of her female competitors aren't really in competition with her. They've exited the market. So many widows foreswear dating for the remainder of their lives. That's what happened with my mom, who was widowed in her early 50s, and spent the remainder of her life (a number of decades) never having dated again. It's true that a man pushing 70 might fantasize of meeting a woman aged 45. But bitter experience will eventually chasten him, causing him to revise his expectations and to become receptive to women in their 60s. The OP's task becomes finding such men.
Not that I date into that age range (I'm in my 30's) but I have met plenty of older men 60 and beyond who are in great health.
My father is one of them. That man is attractive and sweet/humble as can be; very physically fit and handsome for his age; barely any grey hair, hardly any wrinkles, muscular, no pot belly , no health problems, still very strong and tall and can whip 20 year old guys around like it's nothing. He's distinguished, stylish, intelligent, romantic, social.. and he cooks and cleans his own mess.
I honestly have to say that some men in their 60's aren't exactly lying..... he's a catch.
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….ok…most of the husbands of my friends are not at all like this. They want slender women who can keep up with them…..Are they for real.
, no health problems, still very strong and tall and can whip 20 year old guys around like it's nothing. He's distinguished, stylish, intelligent, romantic, social.. and he cooks and cleans his own mess. 
