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I've known this guy for YEARS now. I would say we are only acquaintances. He knows who I am and I know who he is. I've always been attracted to him but he seemed to always be in relationships and not healthy ones at that. But we always exchanged the "happy birthday" messages on Facebook, etc.
I've noticed lately that he is no longer in a relationship. I wanted to reach out to him to maybe ask to get a drink or something, but I didn't know how that would be perceived.
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Originally Posted by sweetjess1951
I've known this guy for YEARS now. I would say we are only acquaintances. He knows who I am and I know who he is. I've always been attracted to him but he seemed to always be in relationships and not healthy ones at that. But we always exchanged the "happy birthday" messages on Facebook, etc.
I've noticed lately that he is no longer in a relationship. I wanted to reach out to him to maybe ask to get a drink or something, but I didn't know how that would be perceived.
Guys - thoughts?
Go for it. Worse than can happy is he says no.
I had a friend do what you did to me. While I respectfully turned her down, I let her know I very much appreciated her interest.
I would start a conversation before you ask him to meet for drinks. Because you barely know each other, he might not be interested in meeting. Or he might be incredibly flattered and decide to meet with you. It also depends on whether he was attracted to you. Did you get that impression?
I would start a conversation before you ask him to meet for drinks. Because you barely know each other, he might not be interested in meeting. Or he might be incredibly flattered and decide to meet with you. It also depends on whether he was attracted to you. Did you get that impression?
Neither one of us have given the impression that we were attracted to each other. I've always seen him with girlfriends. We haven't done much other than follow each other on Instagram or say "Happy birthday" on Facebook". I've just never been the type to step on anyone's toes when they are in a relationship
I'd probably try some small talk before asking him out. He might actually be a little broke up about his relationship ending. He might need time before getting back out there.
Neither one of us have given the impression that we were attracted to each other. I've always seen him with girlfriends. We haven't done much other than follow each other on Instagram or say "Happy birthday" on Facebook". I've just never been the type to step on anyone's toes when they are in a relationship
I don't think the issue here is that he was previously unavailable. The issue is that you two barely know each other. A lot of people have so many friends on Facebook that they probably wouldn't recognize some of themif they ran into them in the real world. Start a conversation with him and hopefully he remembers you. Just because you're his Facebook friend doesn't mean he'll remember you all that well. And if that's the case, he probably won't want to meet. Why is this person I barely know who I occasionally hear from on Facebook suddenly wanting to meet for a drink? Switch the genders and you'll start to see why it might creep some guys out.
If he has been in bad relationships consider his choice of women. You may like him but if you date make sure you get to know him. The issues for the past breakups just may be him.
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