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Crazy because his job is great, good with our kids, helpful in church, both families love him. It's like he does amazing in every part of his life except husband. I understand what you mean and i thank you for your advice. Actually his a lock like "Sheldon" from Big Bang Theory except not funny and much grumpier but just towards me.
Crazy because his job is great, good with our kids, helpful in church, both families love him. It's like he does amazing in every part of his life except husband. I understand what you mean and i thank you for your advice. Actually his a lock like "Sheldon" from Big Bang Theory except not funny and much grumpier but just towards me.
Yeah, there are some deep issues at work, there. The question is, do you want to put up with him while he gets psychotherapy for a couple of years (assuming he'd agree to it, and assuming you could find someone good, who doesn't just take him for a ride and use him as a cash cow without helping him heal and progress), or do you want to try to find someone who is some of those good things you mentioned, AND a normal, psychologically healthy person capable of a loving relationship? Or do a separation while he works on his issues (assuming he even perceives that he has issues)? I don't think it would work for you two to stay together while he works on his issues. It's one more reason for him to feel deficient fir, and self-conscious around you for. There's too much of a parent-child quality about this relationship.
Yes I agree, I do feel like im his mother more than his wife, he has gone to therapy before, and I know of several good therapist that have worked with friends and co-workers. Im willing to support him emotionally as his wife if he gets the help he needs. If not I have decided to move on with my life, and let God and life deal with him. Hopefully he will realize this before I move on, and wont be to late. Im no were near perfect but I know i can make any man happy. Especially when I want nothing in return my love for him is pure, open and honest, so sad that I hoped with love, support, prayer and God would be enough after 6 yrs, but now he has to accept the help. Thank you for your advice.
Yes I agree, I do feel like im his mother more than his wife, he has gone to therapy before, and I know of several good therapist that have worked with friends and co-workers. Im willing to support him emotionally as his wife if he gets the help he needs. If not I have decided to move on with my life, and let God and life deal with him. Hopefully he will realize this before I move on, and wont be to late. Im no were near perfect but I know i can make any man happy. Especially when I want nothing in return my love for him is pure, open and honest, so sad that I hoped with love, support, prayer and God would be enough after 6 yrs, but now he has to accept the help. Thank you for your advice.
So, your children will lose a second father? Nothing you have said indicates he needs therapy?
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