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My husband threw a biggie on me last night. He no longer wants to celebrate Christmas or Easter due to his new religious beliefs.
No tree no decoration in house.
We've been together more then 13 years and have always had similar beliefs. We have a 9 year old and have always celebrated these holidays.
What would you do?
Here's the deal. It may be what he believes, but it isn't what you believe. He's the one who has pulled a switcheroo and it's completely unfair of him to expect your docile compliance.
What's more, this is just the beginning. If he gets his way on this, he'll expect to get his way on other things related to whatever loopy fringe beliefs he now holds. So a little backbone now can save you a lot of misery later on.
So if these are his beliefs, fine. But he cannot force you to believe the same things he does.
Sounds like a nutto, and things aren't going to get any better in the future, most likely they'll get much worse. I'd say bye bye to someone like that but I suppose it's more complicated when you're married, I feel for you OP, that sucks.
Opinions wanted.
My husband threw a biggie on me last night. He no longer wants to celebrate Christmas or Easter due to his new religious beliefs.
No tree no decoration in house.
We've been together more then 13 years and have always had similar beliefs. We have a 9 year old and have always celebrated these holidays.
What would you do?
You kinda have to go back to that whole "honor and obey" thing during your wedding. There's your answer right there.
As for the 9 year old, you and your husband will have to decide on if you (him) will be teaching your religious beliefs/doctrine to him as well. If yes, then no christmas or easter for mr. 9 year old (just like millions of other kids in the world), if not, maybe you guys can come to an agreement that while not officially celebrating chirstmas, you can at least agree to get him "gifts" during this time of year so he doesnt feel left out from the other kids at school who may be celebrating.
You kinda have to go back to that whole "honor and obey" thing during your wedding. There's your answer right there.
As for the 9 year old, you and your husband will have to decide on if you (him) will be teaching your religious beliefs/doctrine to him as well. If yes, then no christmas or easter for mr. 9 year old (just like millions of other kids in the world), if not, maybe you guys can come to an agreement that while not officially celebrating chirstmas, you can at least agree to get him "gifts" during this time of year so he doesnt feel left out from the other kids at school who may be celebrating.
Most churches don't do obey anymore. As for honor most churches do it to both people.
I don't understand this either. To me, it's a cop-out. If he is so miserable in life, the easiest way to separate himself from other people or traditions is just to say so, instead of using a religion to get his way? He might honestly be believing that he some kind of prophet, to not go through some type of steps to get to where he is more honest with himself?
Converting would be like turning a switch on the stove. Emotions and honesty are much harder.
Yeah, I think I'll be Kim Kardashian today and destroy my closet, for an excuse to get new clothes.
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Originally Posted by convextech
You indeed do have a choice here. He is no longer the man you married. This would be a dealbreaker for me.
People aren't static being once they get into a relationship. People do change.
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