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Originally Posted by cmjones311
The reason this pertains to the Relationships board is that I'm in a conundrum. Obviously, I'm getting older by the minute. I'm told often that I look much younger than almost 37, and I'm not really attracted to men in their 40s. So naturally, the longer I wait to move, the more slim the pickings are going to be in finding a decent guy in the dating world. But I'm lonely, and I'm a relationship person. I don't date casually. And I don't want to meet someone here that will tie me to this state and keep me from moving. But the idea of being alone for the next year and a half or more makes me want to slit my throat. And then of course, the older I am when I get to my new state, the older the men that will be in the dating pool, and fewer.
So what's a girl to do in a catch 22 like this?
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I'm not understanding the conundrum. Why are the pickings going to be more slim if you wait a year? Are all the 30-something men going to get married in 2015? Why are you not interested in men a mere 3 years older than you? A year from now, that would be only 2 years older than you. Were you hoping to date younger men? I think that's perfectly do-able, but I don't understand why you feel like the clock is ticking. It seems like you're conjuring up a scenario of scarcity where none exists. And what difference could a single year make, anyway? I think this is all in your mind, and you're torturing yourself with a false image of reality.
And what's wrong with being alone for a year and a half? Enjoy your solitude! Life could be worse--a lot worse! You could be stuck with someone you don't get along with, or someone who's cheating on you, or who's emotionally abusive, or worse. Since you're facing a year and a half alone, you may as well enjoy it. Or, alternatively, look for someone you might be compatible with, and see it looks like things are clicking with someone (doesn't sound likely, given your experience up to now, but who knows?), see if they'd be willing to relocate with you. You never know. Someone may be able to work remotely. You won't know until you try. If you're tired of dating that goes nowhere, embrace your solitude. Those are the two choices you have, as far as I can tell.
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