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I had known my ex GF for about a little more then six years, after our relationships ended after 4 years. she began to date someone else in the past 10 months or so and could never stand it. I know I have feelings for her still which lead to any romantic relationship i tried to make with potential person to fail. So what I did a few days ago was to tell her that I can't remain friends with her anymore because of the above reason which i told her. It obviously made her very sad. So did I made the right thing or did I screwed up?? Would anyone else do something very different then what I did?
You did what was right for you...so you can move on fully. I commend you for ending it the way you did. Most folks just ghost people and stop talking to them out of the blue. I have never actually had to cut crushes out of my life...they left all on their own.
Now all you can do is put it behind you and move on with your life.
You made the right choice. Hanging onto the past is getting in the way of your future. Situations like this, a clean break will help you move on instead of staying stuck.
There's no right or wrong. Different things work for different people. Some break up and stay pals with all their ex partners. But some simply can't be friends after a break-up because there's always latent feelings, or moving on is complicated by it, so both go their separate ways.
So, if being platonic friends caused problems for you, then it was the right choice for you to cut things off and move on. It's not good when you're stuck in neutral. So, even though it was difficult, and still will be, it's a start to getting over her, and meeting new people. Then after a while, you may get past your feelings genuinely and completely and you can be her friend again, with no hassle.
I felt like I made the right choice and explained it to here her the best I can but it always seems like people never view things with logic just what ever their emotions are, but for me I feel better then I did in a long time.
I felt like I made the right choice and explained it to here her the best I can but it always seems like people never view things with logic just what ever their emotions are, but for me I feel better then I did in a long time.
Well emotions are strong things. Seems women may be more prone to running on emotions than logic, least with relationships, romantic or otherwise. Not all woman obviously, but in many cases,
It's hard for some to get over someone that the keep seeing alot. Then they have a hard time dating or getting involved with others because due to being with the person of your unrequited love, you cant take your mind off of them, you're seeing them still, then when your relations fail, you have to be around them and see them date someone else, or other people.
Sometimes, letting people go is easier for mental health in the long run. I wish you luck, and hopefully you'll meet a nice woman to start a genuine relationship with.
You had to make this choice to protect your own feelings and to completely get over her.
You may have lost a friend and she may have looked sad, but now you can completely move on with your life, meet new women and have a better chance at having successful relationships.
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