Men - what does "high maintenance woman" mean to you? (date, wife)
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Inspired by a reference on another thread. I always see guys refer to this, but I'm never really certain what they mean, as many different meanings can be attached to that term.
So what do you consider to be a high-maintenance woman?
High Maintenance.... Well the way I describe this is bi-monthly tripps to the salon for nails(including toes), hair, waxing eyes, lips, and Brazilian when needed. Getting ready to go to the 7-11 entails straightening her hair, make up, and at least one outfit change. Going anywhere near fancy means half the closet on the floor, finally picks something out and asks "What do you think?". If she doesn't like the look on my face the rest of the closet is on the floor. Even if I am trying to tell her "You look great!"
There is also an emotionally high maintenance.... Very needy like needs to be holding your hand all the time or wants your hand touching them always. Asking every time you get alone are we OK? That kind of thing. Thank God I don't have one of these anymore! But BTDT!
Niether are a turn on! I do appreciate how she looks so I can't complain how long it takes to get there Right!
I think it's pretty straightforward. Anything high maintenance requires a lot of time, money and attention. So a HM female would be one who isn't necessarily attractive, but puts a lot of time money and attention to her looks. The end result may not even be worth it, either.
Emotional high maintenance is a turn-off to be sure; however, in the aesthetic sense of the term, there is nothing wrong with someone who takes pride in their appearance and puts forth the time and effort to look great. For some, this may be more involved, but from a guy's perspective, just about any woman could be classified as high mainteanance since they have to style their hair, etc. much more frequently. Few ladies are able to jump out of the shower and run and look halfway presentable, something that many guys are able to do. Thus, I don't mind high maintenance in that sense, provided it's healthy and not channeled into a negative sense where it becomes more of a personality disorder.
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Emotional high maintenance is a turn-off to be sure; however, in the aesthetic sense of the term, there is nothing wrong with someone who takes pride in their appearance and puts forth the time and effort to look great. For some, this may be more involved, but from a guy's perspective, just about any woman could be classified as high mainteanance since they have to style their hair, etc. much more frequently. Few ladies are able to jump out of the shower and run and look halfway presentable, something that many guys are able to do. Thus, I don't mind high maintenance in that sense, provided it's healthy and not channeled into a negative sense where it becomes more of a personality disorder.
that is merely a matter of opinion really. So you are basically saying that unless a woman actually takes time all the time for hair, makeup, etc then they are not presentable?
Sorry, i disagree. That stuff is all part of the ingrained BS society instills in people to think that a woman has to go through all that to be "presentable"
My wife doesn't go through all that, she has just enough time to bathe, put on some clothes, and go with her hectic schedule.
In fact, she doesn't care about going through all of that, and no one thinks any less of her either.
In the time i've known my wife, i can count on one hand the amount of times she's applied makeup. It does add to her appearance yes, but it's not a requirement.
HM to me is a woman who is materialistic, and has to have, and spend lots of money
that is merely a matter of opinion really. So you are basically saying that unless a woman actually takes time all the time for hair, makeup, etc then they are not presentable?
Sorry, i disagree. That stuff is all part of the ingrained BS society instills in people to think that a woman has to go through all that to be "presentable"
My wife doesn't go through all that, she has just enough time to bathe, put on some clothes, and go with her hectic schedule.
In fact, she doesn't care about going through all of that, and no one thinks any less of her either.
In the time i've known my wife, i can count on one hand the amount of times she's applied makeup. It does add to her appearance yes, but it's not a requirement.
HM to me is a woman who is materialistic, and has to have, and spend lots of money
Yes, it is a matter of opinion, and I meant no slight to anyone at all, but any woman I have known has taken much longer to be able to go out the door than it takes me. My view is admittedly skewed as I am from Manhattan, where many women do take great pains with their appearance and fashion. For me, it's not so much societal influences as experiential influences that have characterized my point of view. That's the perspective from which I was stating my opinion, with no malice or derision expressed or implied for those ladies who are able to look good without much fuss.
One other thing to consider is that just because a woman may have a good deal of money, or access to a good deal of money, does not make her materialistic, since materialism is when one is consumed by money and posessions. There's a difference between having expensive things and having to have expensive things, or the appearance of money. To my mind, that's more materialism, which may or may not be intertwined with being higher maintenance.
High maintenance is a turn-off to me. I interpret high maintenance to include:
--spends an excessive amount of time primping/preening with too much make up, etc....in an effort to "impress" people, constantly worrying what they think about her and what she is wearing.
--cares way too much about clothes and spends an excessive amount of $$$$ of clothing/shoes.
--Is really picky or finicky when we go out on a date in choosing what to order, what movie to see, etc...i.e. whining too much
--Complaining and belly-aching about every little thing coming and going.
I call it high maintenance when referring to a woman's priorities and needs. If she NEEDS to have that Coach purse, or spa treatment on a regular basis, or refuses to eat or dine in anything less than five star accomodations, she's high maintenance. Nothing wrong with wanting those things, but when you have to alter your life around material luxuries or refuse to put forth the effort to compromise, I see that as high maintenance.
The grooming stuff doesn't bother me. I don't see anything wrong with a woman wanting to fix her hair before running to the market. I'd rather a women put some effort into her appearance than let herself go by running errands in dirty sweatpants and a stained t-shirt.
I've always considered it to be more or less synonymous with demanding. My first wife was very high maintenance. I took a truckload of her used clothing to Goodwill every six months. Storekeepers called her when they'd get shipments. If she saw a ring she liked for $500 she'd buy it; if it was priced at $2500 she'd ask if I wanted to buy it for her, "or should I just get it for myself?"
My current wife is low maintenance. She doesn't like to shop, wears the same couple pairs of jeans summer and winter, and hasn't been to a beauty shop since we were married 7 years ago.
I GREATLY prefer low maintenance!
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