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I tend to do better with speed dating than online.
I am currently blogging my latest experience with OLD, specifically, Ok Cupid. Day 1: Profile was viewed 30 times. Day 2: 11 views. Day 3: 8 views. Day 4 (today): 4 views so far.
Number of messages I have received from someone who meets the basic criteria of living near me AND is between the ages of 35-48? One - and it has the hallmarks of being a bot/fake profile. Number of messages I have received total: 11. Number of those 11 messages that came with a warning to avoid internet scams: 5. Number of non-scam warning messages that say something other than "hi?" None.
Number of men I have sent messages to: 14. Number of men who have responded to my message? 1.
So, yep, I'm just drowning in male attention.
Not trying to sound mean but the age of a woman has a pretty big impact on how much attention she gets. My experience is women don't seem to start trying until 35+, maybe because from 18-34 they don't have to try that hard if they are reasonably good looking.
Best analogy I can think of to explain the differences between male and female dating is this.
At 18 when we become legal adults females are handed 10,000 in virtual dating currency. Males start with 0. As each year passes females start losing their virtual currency after age 23, males continue gaining currency until about 35 before it starts to go down.
Females are attracted to confidence, status, and success in males. Those things come with time, experience, and age; something that 18 year old males have none of. Males are attracted to youth and beauty something that females start with and then lose over time.
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Originally Posted by Montanaguy04
Not trying to sound mean but the age of a woman has a pretty big impact on how much attention she gets. My experience is women don't seem to start trying until 35+, maybe because from 18-34 they don't have to try that hard if they are reasonably good looking.
Best analogy I can think of to explain the differences between male and female dating is this.
At 18 when we become legal adults females are handed 10,000 in virtual dating currency. Males start with 0. As each year passes females start losing their virtual currency after age 23, males continue gaining currency until about 35 before it starts to go down.
Females are attracted to confidence, status, and success in males. Those things come with time, experience, and age; something that 18 year old males have none of. Males are attracted to youth and beauty something that females start with and then lose over time.
You really need to get off the bro dude blogs. Seriously.
Not trying to sound mean but the age of a woman has a pretty big impact on how much attention she gets.
When I was starting to think about dating again, I figured my biggest hurdle would be being widowed. Who in their 30's and 40's wants to be reminded of their own mortality? But I had male friends tell me that being widowed was not as big of an issue as being over 35 was. (I was 34 when he died; 41 now).
But you support my original point which was contrary to what the OP and most men (especially on this site) believe, not all women who put up a profile with a halfway decent picture are flooded with hundreds of messages every day.
When I was starting to think about dating again, I figured my biggest hurdle would be being widowed. Who in their 30's and 40's wants to be reminded of their own mortality? But I had male friends tell me that being widowed was not as big of an issue as being over 35 was. (I was 34 when he died; 41 now).
That may be true on OLD, but I don't see that in real life.
When I was starting to think about dating again, I figured my biggest hurdle would be being widowed. Who in their 30's and 40's wants to be reminded of their own mortality? But I had male friends tell me that being widowed was not as big of an issue as being over 35 was. (I was 34 when he died; 41 now).
But you support my original point which was contrary to what the OP and most men (especially on this site) believe, not all women who put up a profile with a halfway decent picture are flooded with hundreds of messages every day.
You can tell if you have good friends if they tell you the truth even if its not a truth you may want to hear. On this site I give my opinion from a male POV and sometimes people don't like it, but I figure hearing an honest truth (even an opinion) is better then a sugar coated half truth; that's what forums like this are for. Your male friends are correct IMO. For me personally it doesn't matter much if a woman is divorced, never married, or a widow. Just like a woman's height means next to nothing. It is all height/weight proportion.
Females are attracted to confidence, status, and success in males. Those things come with time, experience, and age; something that 18 year old males have none of. Males are attracted to youth and beauty something that females start with and then lose over time.
Not trying to sound mean but the age of a woman has a pretty big impact on how much attention she gets. My experience is women don't seem to start trying until 35+, maybe because from 18-34 they don't have to try that hard if they are reasonably good looking.
Best analogy I can think of to explain the differences between male and female dating is this.
At 18 when we become legal adults females are handed 10,000 in virtual dating currency. Males start with 0. As each year passes females start losing their virtual currency after age 23, males continue gaining currency until about 35 before it starts to go down.
Females are attracted to confidence, status, and success in males. Those things come with time, experience, and age; something that 18 year old males have none of. Males are attracted to youth and beauty something that females start with and then lose over time.
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Horrible. Sad. Lopsided. And dead-on accurate
And yet most people pair up with someone close to their own age. It's not as if most couples are made up of women in their 20's and men in their 40's.
From what I've seen, if the woman ttis even relatively attractive, she could easily go online and literally just choose the exact attributes that she wants and get a man with those attributes.
I've seen women that claimed that they couldn't find anyone go on OLD for a few days and come away with a boyfriend that is exactly their type (both looks and personality). It's as if they created him at home with their chemistry set or something.
I've never once seen this happen for a man of any age, no matter how good-looking or how rich the man is.
Not true. I tried on and off for years and didn't find men I wanted who wanted me. I'm not unattractive either.
From what I've seen, if the woman is even relatively attractive, she could easily go online and literally just choose the exact attributes that she wants and get a man with those attributes.
I've seen women that claimed that they couldn't find anyone go on OLD for a few days and come away with a boyfriend that is exactly their type (both looks and personality). It's as if they created him at home with their chemistry set or something.
I just posted in another thread my dismal results from week #1 of being back on Ok Cupid.
I just don't think OLD is as great for women as the OP thinks it is. Lots of women have never used it and have no desire to start. For those of us who do use it, it's not exactly an endless showering of attention from men. It's full of liars, flakes, and people who you just aren't interested in.
Oh please. That is just some cope out women use. Sure there are bad apples, just like in real life, but there are also plenty of normal genuine guys looking for relationship.
OLD for women is just absurd. Its like getting to browse an endless catalog of men and pick which ever one you choose to go on a date with.
The only way for men to replicate that is as an under 40 year old Westerner in the Philippines on a dating site. Granted he will still have to message many girls but they are a given to reply and meet for a date.
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