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Once you get to the movie, you should tell him that since you invited him, you want to pay. But if wants to get the popcorn and soda, that would be okay. But you should be prepared to pay for everything.
When I was dating, if my date insisted on getting the meal, I'd ask if he minded if I paid the tip. Rarely did he say no. That works well with friends, too.
That way you signal to the guy that you're not the sort who expects him to pay for everything.
As dating with my husband progressed, I'd often tell him I wanted to buy our meal or movie ticket. He always picked up the lion's share of our overall expenditures, but I contributed whenever I could.
I've gone on first dates like anyone else, some where the guy paid a good portion of the time while others they didn't pay or we went half and half.
Its been a month since I've been on a date so I am wondering tomorrow is a movie, walk around, and dinner, should I pay for 1 of these or just wait and see if this guy pays for everything or what to do?
What is the proper and right thing to do in today's world?
My first dates usually include one activity and my portion of the expenses are usually under $20. In that case, my preference is that he offers to pay. If we were doing multiple or expensive activities at his suggestion (because I wouldn't suggest that), I'd still prefer that he offer to pay. lol
Having said that, I do routinely offer and follow through with contributing to date expenses.
I had one date where we went for a walk. It was nice. We stopped at a shop for a $1.50 coffee and he ordered his first, which was fine, and paid for his, which was also fine, but as I was ordering mine he started talking about his mother always said not to pay for anything for a girl and it'll weed out the gold diggers and I found that very off putting. I bought my own, had zero problem with it, but his little speech meant no second date. So if you're not going to pay for the other person, they'll probably be ok with it but don't make it weird by going on and on about it.
I had one date where we went for a walk. It was nice. We stopped at a shop for a $1.50 coffee and he ordered his first, which was fine, and paid for his, which was also fine, but as I was ordering mine he started talking about his mother always said not to pay for anything for a girl and it'll weed out the gold diggers and I found that very off putting. I bought my own, had zero problem with it, but his little speech meant no second date. So if you're not going to pay for the other person, they'll probably be ok with it but don't make it weird by going on and on about it.
Yeah, his mother must want him to stay single. lol
Bring enough money to cover you both. If you invited him out, you should pay or go Dutch, but if he insists on paying let him.
This sounds right about right. At least fake it by reaching for your purse if you are the woman that invited. Pray to the fly in the soup bowl that he tells you that he has the tab... But obviously as the above poster said, bring enough.
My policy is to always offer no matter who invited who or how the date is going. The tab comes and I reach for my wallet and offer to split the check. I've been on a lot of first dates and I've never had the guy accept my offer to split the check, but I'm sure most of them appreciate the offer. I think it's rude for either party to sit there and assume the other person is going to pay for them.
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My policy is to always offer no matter who invited who or how the date is going. The tab comes and I reach for my wallet and offer to split the check. I've been on a lot of first dates and I've never had the guy accept my offer to split the check, but I'm sure most of them appreciate the offer. I think it's rude for either party to sit there and assume the other person is going to pay for them.
Yeah, it is just nice for them to make the offer. It means a lot. I almost always (unless it has been absolutely horrendous, and then they rarely offer) pay the entire thing.
My policy is to always offer no matter who invited who or how the date is going. The tab comes and I reach for my wallet and offer to split the check. I've been on a lot of first dates and I've never had the guy accept my offer to split the check, but I'm sure most of them appreciate the offer. I think it's rude for either party to sit there and assume the other person is going to pay for them.
Sometimes it happens so fast though. The waiter hands the bill to the guy and he immediately puts in his credit card and gives it back to the waiter. I feel like it'd be weird for me to interrupt and be like, "Wait, let me pay my half!"
Sometimes it happens so fast though. The waiter hands the bill to the guy and he immediately puts in his credit card and gives it back to the waiter. I feel like it'd be weird for me to interrupt and be like, "Wait, let me pay my half!"
I've had that happen before. If the guy is that ready with his credit card, then obviously he wasn't going to accept you paying anyway. I just thank them and tell them I really appreciate the drinks/dinner/coffee whatever it was.
If I ask a girl out I pay...If a girl asks me out I still pay. Well that's just me I guess
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