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Imo&ime, the effort in obtaining a woman is miniscule, compared to the effort in keeping/maintaining a healthy loving long relationship.
If you find this to be false? explain to me why you're still single and not with the previous women in your life?
I'm in the "find it to be false" category. I can't apply my reasoning to all men that feel this way, but I'm still single because I like the variety of dating multiple women. I'm not with the previous women in my life for any number of reasons: got bored, wanted to date or sleep with other women, etc.
The endgame isn't "find a mate and settle down" for everyone.
I'm in the "find it to be false" category. I can't apply my reasoning to all men that feel this way, but I'm still single because I like the variety of dating multiple women. I'm not with the previous women in my life for any number of reasons: got bored, wanted to date or sleep with other women, etc.
The endgame isn't "find a mate and settle down" for everyone.
I understand. You and many others guys just want to get laid. Totally understandable. I was the same way; juggling numerous women on a monthly basis (very time consuming and a lot of elbow grease) but still no comparison in the effort in keeping a long term relationship (The compromising, understanding, drama, bickering, sameO face-sameO sex just a different day routine, etc) can take toll on a person, Lmao. For me, its far more easier to amass numerous women to bang than trying to develop a meaningful relationship that would last 10+ years or more.
I understand. You and many others guys just want to get laid. Totally understandable. I was the same way; juggling numerous women on a monthly basis (very time consuming and a lot of elbow grease) but still no comparison in the effort in keeping a long term relationship (The compromising, understanding, drama, bickering, sameO face-sameO sex just a different day routine, etc) can take toll on a person, Lmao. For me, its far more easier to amass numerous women to bang than trying to develop a meaningful relationship that would last 10+ years or more.
It's the "for me" element that's important. It's one thing to suggest that it's easier for YOU to start relationships than to continue them, but it's another to suggest that it's that way for everyone. My experience has been the opposite, at least thus far. As is often the case, YMMV.
Ultimately, women are the selectors. So they win in the end. Many men just settle for the first woman that will have them.
Men also are selectors. Men choose which women to approach. If women do the approaching, men choose whether to be open to the approach or to walk away.
It's the "for me" element that's important. It's one thing to suggest that it's easier for YOU to start relationships than to continue them, but it's another to suggest that it's that way for everyone. My experience has been the opposite, at least thus far. As is often the case, YMMV.
You're saying it's harder for you to start a relationship than to keep one going long-term. And yet you also say that you like to date multiple women at once. You prefer variety. But in order to get that variety, you need to be able to initiate relationships with relative ease.
There seems to be a contradiction there. Could you clarify?
It goes it phases for some guys. In my early twenties it was easy to start or sustain a relationship. In my mid twenties it was hard to start one, but easy to sustain. When I met my wife I had to put on quite an act but once we got past the first part and saw the real me she was good with that too. I say all of that to say that guys shouldn't pretend to be someone they're not, but sometimes it works if you're willing to be sincere afterwards.
Face it every man would put up with a pretty faced woman even if she has nothing going for her. The same is not true for the opposite. A man with nothing going for him is quick to be called out as weird, a bum, unambitious, not making the best of his usefullness, ect. Why?
Is it because men are expected to lead and be a outpost for others to live their lives based on.
Correction,
I will PLAY with a pretty woman who has nothing going for her not date her
I understand. You and many others guys just want to get laid. Totally understandable. I was the same way; juggling numerous women on a monthly basis (very time consuming and a lot of elbow grease) but still no comparison in the effort in keeping a long term relationship (The compromising, understanding, drama, bickering, sameO face-sameO sex just a different day routine, etc) can take toll on a person, Lmao. For me, its far more easier to amass numerous women to bang than trying to develop a meaningful relationship that would last 10+ years or more.
I definitely agree with this.
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