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Old 02-04-2015, 09:00 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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How would not renewing your marriage license be any different? You still have comingled finances, cars, a home, kids.
I agree. Plus, I really don't want to have to have any more paper work that I have to remember to file every 10 years and another fee that I have to pay just to remain married when I that's what I intended to do in the first place. If you don't want to be legally tied to someone for the rest of your life, don't get married. It's not hard.
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Old 02-04-2015, 09:45 PM
 
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Why? Why make more paperwork and hassle? Divorce is easier in the long run.
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Old 02-04-2015, 09:52 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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You ALWAYS have the option to walk out whenever you want without legal proceedings.

Just don't get married. Easy enough.
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Old 02-04-2015, 10:19 PM
 
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This would be a hassle for people that are happily married. It could be a way out for people that feel trapped, however. There are a lot of people that can't communicate in relationships and this deadline would jump start that.
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Old 02-04-2015, 10:35 PM
YAZ
 
Location: Phoenix,AZ
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Just another government intrusion in our lives. "Marriage" by conventional definition is implied as "permanent" anyway. Ya know, Until death do us part.......

Marriage should be defined by each others' religious beliefs, not by government standards. Live together without being married?

Kewl.

File taxes in a joint manner.

Same for health insurance.

Could very well eliminate the gay marriage argument, eh?
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Old 02-05-2015, 05:28 AM
 
Location: Bloomington IN
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At least in my state a marriage license expires after 60 days. The license is only a permit to become legally married and does not mean one is married. The actual marriage is what binds a couple together legally and perhaps religiously. Some of us still believe that marriage vows are permanent and take those vows seriously in our personal lives. I don't need some government body collecting money from me every ten years.
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Old 02-05-2015, 06:01 AM
 
Location: a primitive state
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I used to think that was a good idea, but people would probably start distancing themselves at year 7, rather than trying to work through tough issues.
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Old 02-05-2015, 06:30 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I thought there were countries in Europe that had something like this? It was shorter than 10 years though. I know Mexico considered a 2 year marriage, but I don't think it passed, a few years back.

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Marriage should be defined by each others' religious beliefs, not by government standards. Live together without being married?

Not everyone is religious or has religious beliefs. Marriage is a government contract. A religious sacrament is a private affair and not my concern. I'm not superstitious and I don't believe in the supernatural.
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Old 02-05-2015, 06:39 AM
 
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I agree. Plus, I really don't want to have to have any more paper work that I have to remember to file every 10 years and another fee that I have to pay just to remain married when I that's what I intended to do in the first place. If you don't want to be legally tied to someone for the rest of your life, don't get married. It's not hard.
This is what I thought: Great, more government intrusion, filing, and taxes... just what I want.

Plus, it seems like the dream of someone who is passive aggressive. Instead of confronting problems when they happen (and either solving them or if it's insurmountable moving on), wishy washy people would wait and drag on marriages until the 10 years are up and then leave. And you still have all the headache of having to split everything, work out parenting schedules, etc, etc.

If something is bugging you, do something then... don't wait for years (and this is coming from someone who DID make that mistake of not confronting at the time of the problem).

And if you don't like the permanence of marriage, just don't marry. No one is forced to in this day and age.
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Old 02-05-2015, 06:43 AM
 
Location: IN>Germany>ND>OH>TX>CA>Currently NoVa and a Vacation Lake House in PA
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If you do that, why not just live together, why get married at all?
This, seriously, why bother?
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