The Lookey Lou (girlfriend, marriage, women, cheating)

[disneygogetter]

Have any of you, ever like gone out with someone like a family member or friend and they were married or engaged or had a partner etc. And let's say you and them are driving around or walking around the store and all of the sudden that guy notices a women walk by and that guy just turns their head and really checks her out, even though he is in the presents of you, another women. How would this make you feel?

[luckodeirish]

My ex would do this-one time we were walking at Nordstorm and he was staring at a women, kept staring as he was walking and walked right into a display. He did it all the time, no matter where we were.
It did not make me feel anything- but I knew he was a douche. We split up after 14 years of marriage because he wanted to go live with his girlfriend (hmmm, wonder if that was the woman from Nordstrom lol).

[JustJulia]

My husband and I point out that stuff to one another all the time. He's not all obvious about it, that's stupid.

[rego00123]

Sometimes it can't be helped.

Like a women in neon Orange sweats that you could see through walking around target all la de da

[rumpa]

Douche move. More so if it's your man doing it.

Everyone looks but have a little class when you do it. No drooling.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by disneygogetter

Have any of you, ever like gone out with someone like a family member or friend and they were married or engaged or had a partner etc. And let's say you and them are driving around or walking around the store and all of the sudden that guy notices a women walk by and that guy just turns their head and really checks her out, even though he is in the presents of you, another women. How would this make you feel?

They're just a family member or friend. Why would I care?

[Chowhound]

If someone is coupled up they should show a little restraint in observing the opposite sex. Sneak a peak or so, but not walking into displays at the mall level of ogling....

Matter of fact, you probably should be somewhat discreet even if you aren't coupled up already... It seems sort of rude to stare at people in general.

[convextech]

Originally Posted by disneygogetter

Have any of you, ever like gone out with someone like a family member or friend and they were married or engaged or had a partner etc. And let's say you and them are driving around or walking around the store and all of the sudden that guy notices a women walk by and that guy just turns their head and really checks her out, even though he is in the presents of you, another women. How would this make you feel?

I'm fine with it. I check out people too. I'm not dead, for God's sake.

[Sonic_Spork]

My husband and I both look. In fact if anyone is likely to point something out, it's me, to him. Neither of us does it in such a way that the person is likely to notice though, or random passers by would see what was up, like turning around or walking into things.

We were at pool one night, there was a woman shooting who obviously chose her top to showcase her assets. Many women at pool do this in the actual hope of distracting male opponents and throwing them off their game. Well, when we shot against that team again, I jokingly murmured to my husband (bear in mind we are D&D nerds, too, so this will make sense to anyone familiar with the dice stuff of tabletop gaming), I said, "I'm not going to have you shoot against her, I know you get a penalty in saves versus boobs." We both laughed.

If I were with a man who had a propensity for cheating, or if I were insecure about my marriage for some other major reason, if I suspected there was more to it than looking, I might be upset. Otherwise...nah. Don't care.

[SUPbud]

there's no sin in LOOKING, but there are more and less classy ways to do it.

I would feel more secure about a partner who aimlessly gawked and just remarked outloud at the mall
than the quiet girl who had 100+ numbers in her phone's address book of "friends"