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Well, maybe he wants more of your attention.
When relationships were started , he had maximum attention from you, but now he mas less attention from you than before.
of course, he worries
What have you been doing together? Is this the guy from your last thread The Pick Up and Drop off thread?
You said something about waiting for sex. Have you had sex yet? Because not everyone actually holds out until marriage, even if that was the intent.
If not, maybe he's wondering why you won't sleep with him if you like him. Maybe you have given off a personality vibe of not being serious. Do you make 1st moves, like texting or calling him first? Do you make plans to get together or is he doing everything regarding initiating and planning?
Maybe he feels you aren't showing enough enthusiasm or that he's making the effort but you aren't.
Last edited by HappyRain; 03-03-2015 at 06:25 AM..
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You probably are. I recall you don't want to have sex until marriage. Some of your other posts make you sound like a hardcore straight edger (or if you're west coast, maybe a headbanger / metal (NWN?) one, which is rare), which is cool, I used to be in that scene (way back: Youth of Today through early Earth Crisis eras), but in effect, "dating" someone in that lifestyle is really like being platonic friends with them. It can feel like being led on.
Don't know how long you've been dating...when guys say "lead on" they usually mean regarding sex. You can go as fast or as slow as you want but you need to be honest with him on giving him updates on how you feel and if things are "progressing". If he can't handle that then he's not for you.
When I hear someone say that they think that another person is "leading them on" I think of a couple of things....
One is that the person feels that they are investing their time and energy in a relationship and the other person is not really serious about them. The fear they have is that they are going to get their feelings hurt and waste more of their time.
The other is about the sex. Sometimes women tease men and get them aroused to a point and then stop. There is a bit of game playing here when a woman does that to a man and I think it is quite immature. Or perhaps no actions are made like this--however, subtle hints or less subtle statements are made that you may be willing "if the time is right" and this goes on and on with one excuse or another ....which is leading the person on.
I am not sure if either or both of these apply to your situation. As others have posted, there is really not enough information provided and we really don't know enough about this man to determine what he is thinking. The best thing, I think, for you to do is bring this up to him and ask him what he means by that. If it is hard for you to talk to him, then you really need to work on the communication part of your relationship if it means that much to you.
One more thing....I did not read where you posted that you want to wait until you are married before having sexual relations with your partner. Someone said that you did post that, and if that is true, than that is fine. I think it only fair to yourself and to whoever you are dating, that you tell them early in the relationship this is how you feel. There are some men who do not want to wait and that is their choice. (And there are a ton of women who don't want to wait as well.) To get involved with someone when both of you disagree about a matter which is very important really would be a waste of time for both of you and why risk either party getting a broken heart? And don't feel you will not find someone who places the same importance on that aspect of the relationship as you do. They are out there.
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