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I'm not going to read the 12,000-word manifesto OP, but in short 30 isn't too late for anything.
I dated attractive women in their late teens and early 20's when I was in my early 30's. I was in grad school in a small-ish college town, so that age group was the only plentiful attractive option. They were fun in some ways, but really too much drama and silliness for me. I was much happier when I moved to a major city where there were plentiful attractive women closer to my age to date.
After all, there are numerous attractive women in the OP's own age bracket. A larger problem is that so many of those women are now married, or otherwise unavailable.
The best are taken and many I know are no way near as hot as they were 10 years ago. + those I have met interview you for marriage effectively and I don't qualify.
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I'm not going to read the 12,000-word manifesto OP
Yea sorry about that, but you get the point anyhow.
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Originally Posted by ohio_peasant Unfortunately relationships are not a charity.
Great point. There are many men that think a hot girl should be their "prize" for dealing with a hard life and women who don't want to be that and have needs and wants as well are horrible selfish people. :/ pretty unfair.
I would be glad if I had no attention at all, then I'd not be concerned about it not being a charity. For me the thing that is killing me is that I had loads of girls hitting on me when I was in my early 20s, girls that I knew wanted to hook with me and I was just dying inside, I even pushed them away for fear of letting them see me depressed, although now I see it was so obvious I was unwell to everybody.
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I dated attractive women in their late teens and early 20's when I was in my early 30's. I was in grad school in a small-ish college town, so that age group was the only plentiful attractive option. They were fun in some ways, but really too much drama and silliness for me.
I think this is the issue, different social stages in life, so physically there is no problem but obviously socially not great. That said I would date the 22 year old version of myself, because my 22 year old self would date a 30 year old and not give a ****, that's if I was a girl and not depressed and I am that same identical guy as I was when I was 22, actually even if she was depressed I would.
Difference is guys are far less influenced/bound by their social circles as girls are.
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The best are taken and many I know are no way near as hot as they were 10 years ago. + those I have met interview you for marriage effectively and I don't qualify.
I'm curious, are you in a rural area and/or the South, by chance? My advice would be to get to a major city that attracts a large number of single professional-type women, or a more progressive smaller town if that's what you prefer. These are places where you can find plenty of attractive single women in their late 20's and 30's who aren't all looking to settle down quickly.
You will need to be in good shape and hopefully have all your hair. That makes you look much more youthful. If you're balding or have receding hairline already.... I'm sorry but there may not be much hope for you with women <26.
Why not just go bald? I don't know why more balding men do this, it looks much better than a receding hairline.
I'm curious, are you in a rural area and/or the South, by chance? My advice would be to get to a major city that attracts a large number of single professional-type women, or a more progressive smaller town if that's what you prefer. These are places where you can find plenty of attractive single women in their late 20's and 30's who aren't all looking to settle down quickly.
I've always been in bigger cities, mostly London. So this hasn't been the problem.
I've always been in bigger cities, mostly London. So this hasn't been the problem.
I have a rather difficult time believing that you can't find attractive 30-year-old women in London who aren't looking to settle down right away. I would think London would be one of the major world capitols for that demographic, actually.
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