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I texted him this morning and said 'what changed' no more flirty texts? He said 'I've just backed off since you wanted some distance'. I just wanted to go home after being on a hellish trip for the prior 4 days, I told him I didn't want to hurt his feelings by leaving. He said, 'sorry you feel that way I intrepreted it differently.' I said 'what if someone treated your daughter this way?', he said 'look, I gave you what you wanted and now you're behaving badly, I'm done debating it.' Did I go too far with the daughter comment?
I texted him this morning and said 'what changed' no more flirty texts? He said 'I've just backed off since you wanted some distance'. I just wanted to go home after being on a hellish trip for the prior 4 days, I told him I didn't want to hurt his feelings by leaving. He said, 'sorry you feel that way I intrepreted it differently.' I said 'what if someone treated your daughter this way?', he said 'look, I gave you what you wanted and now you're behaving badly, I'm done debating it.' Did I go too far with the daughter comment?
Yes. Sex isn't a promise. He doesn't owe you anything as a result of having had sex with you.
Also, it kind of sounds as though you were using sex to get what you really want, i.e., a relationship.
Don't do that anymore. Have sex only if you want to have sex.
I texted him this morning and said 'what changed' no more flirty texts? He said 'I've just backed off since you wanted some distance'. I just wanted to go home after being on a hellish trip for the prior 4 days, I told him I didn't want to hurt his feelings by leaving. He said, 'sorry you feel that way I intrepreted it differently.' I said 'what if someone treated your daughter this way?', he said 'look, I gave you what you wanted and now you're behaving badly, I'm done debating it.' Did I go too far with the daughter comment?
Yes, you did go too far with the daughter comment. He didn't rape you. Let it go. Stop chasing him. Chasing men never make them like you. You made a mistake, like we all do in some form. Get over it. You don't really know him and what he is capable of doing if you continue to bother him.
Yes, you did go too far with the daughter comment. He didn't rape you. Let it go. Stop chasing him. Chasing men never make them like you. You made a mistake, like we all do in some form. Get over it. You don't really know him and what he is capable of doing if you continue to bother him.
I've been chased by plenty of women, but never the one that really caught my eye. If that happened, I definitely wouldn't be opposed to it and would meet them half way.
I've also had women use sex to get what they want from me. After the act was done, one girl asked me if I wanted to be with her... Umm? So you just used sex as manipulation to get a man to like you? How often have you done this with men for that reason? Needless to say, I didn't date her.
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Don't be surprised if he contacts you all of the sudden wanting another "date", but if you are smart you'll have your guard up. It could be that you were not all that compatible in the bedroom, and there is no shame in that. It happens, and it's an important aspect to a lot of relationships.
I'll be the first to admit (to the distaste of others I would imagine) that I dated women with whom I became intimate with and was disappointed in how things went. It's not that I was looking for a hook up, but if things didn't go the way I had hope why keep pursuing the relationship? I have a set of standards I look for in the bedroom, and I am not afraid to admit that to myself. We all want to be happy, and sometimes you don't know until that moment of intimacy. That's not to say you aren't great in the bedroom, but maybe you weren't his cup of tea.
Don't be surprised if he contacts you all of the sudden wanting another "date", but if you are smart you'll have your guard up. It could be that you were not all that compatible in the bedroom, and there is no shame in that. It happens, and it's an important aspect to a lot of relationships.
I'll be the first to admit (to the distaste of others I would imagine) that I dated women with whom I became intimate with and was disappointed in how things went. It's not that I was looking for a hook up, but if things didn't go the way I had hope why keep pursuing the relationship? I have a set of standards I look for in the bedroom, and I am not afraid to admit that to myself. We all want to be happy, and sometimes you don't know until that moment of intimacy. That's not to say you aren't great in the bedroom, but maybe you weren't his cup of tea.
Idk man, I don't judge that aspect the first few times. People have to get comfy with each other. They could be the biggest freak ever, but don't want to reveal it before they know you and then risk scaring you off.
I texted him this morning and said 'what changed' no more flirty texts?
Everyone told you not to text him again. :/
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I said 'what if someone treated your daughter this way?', he said 'look, I gave you what you wanted and now you're behaving badly, I'm done debating it.' Did I go too far with the daughter comment?
YES. That was seriously out of line and weird. You are not his daughter, you are a mature (?) adult woman he dated. He doesn't and men overall don't owe you as much care as they would give their daughter. You're trying to argue or send passive aggressive quips hoping THAT will cause him to consider giving you what you thought you deserved for giving him sex??? Not gonna work, with anyone, ever. Get some perspective. You need to radically change your thinking about dating...
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You're trying to argue or send passive aggressive quips hoping THAT will cause him to consider giving you what you thought you deserved for giving him sex??? Not gonna work, with anyone, ever. Get some perspective. You need to radically change your thinking about dating...
