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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76
Well, "going after" in this context, to me, means approaching someone with romantic or sexual interest. I've been hit on by plenty of men for nothing more than my appearance. And by hit on - I mean anything from getting asked out to simply approaching me with the intent to get to know me better. And these men ran the gamut from never seeing me before in their lives to knowing me very well.
Ok, so you consider people just talking to you, hitting on you? (If they're a guy)
Fair enough. To me, hitting on someone implies intent (romantic/sexually), while if I'm talking to people I'm just talking to them... I'll talk to women or men as I'm just out and about.
Generally though, I don't see this (men going after younger women) much where I'm at, and when I do it's always some dim / immature guy who couldn't hack dating a peer. It's a control thing.
Ok, so you consider people just talking to you, hitting on you? (If they're a guy)
Fair enough. To me, hitting on someone implies intent (romantic/sexually), while if I'm talking to people I'm just talking to them... I'll talk to women or men as I'm just out and about.
He does have a point here that I'd agree with. If we're talking going after/hitting on/etc....it's gotta have some kind of romantic (or otherwise) intent imo.
Ok, so you consider people just talking to you, hitting on you? (If they're a guy)
Fair enough. To me, hitting on someone implies intent (romantic/sexually), while if I'm talking to people I'm just talking to them... I'll talk to women or men as I'm just out and about.
I'm not talking about the man in line behind me in the store that exchanges a few words with me while we are waiting to pay for our groceries or the man that talks to me about how cute my baby is. I'm talking about men that approach me because they are interested in me romantically or sexually based on my appearance. I'm talking about the guys that approach me and ask me if I'm single, ask me for my number, ask me if they can buy me a drink, etc.
Because you can read the forums without having a profile. I do that often because it has several interesting forums (it's a religious site).
Ok. I just asked because I've had men on dating sites send me messages like, "You're STILL on here? What's your problem?" and I'm like if you're seeing me here obviously that means you're still here too. lol
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76
I'm not talking about the man in line behind me in the store that exchanges a few words with me while we are waiting to pay for our groceries or the man that talks to me about how cute my baby is. I'm talking about men that approach me because they are interested in me romantically or sexually based on my appearance. I'm talking about the guys that approach me and ask me if I'm single, ask me for my number, ask me if they can buy me a drink, etc.
People ask that before you've had a conversation? How very very odd.
Why would they be interested in getting your number or if you're single before you've even talked?
I have no doubt about what you're saying. I just don't "get it".
People ask that before you've had a conversation? How very very odd.
Why would they be interested in getting your number or if you're single before you've even talked?
I have no doubt about what you're saying. I just don't "get it".
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Originally Posted by Hivemind31
Happens all the time. But when you see the guys doing it, it's less of a shock.
Yes. It used to happen a lot when I lived in the city. So that's why I think all this nonsense about baggage, older women being more uptight, older women being bad in bed, etc. is all just BS.
Are you guys understanding what I'm saying now? I'm sorry that you have had to pretend you are as dumb as I am to carry on a conversation with me!
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