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Oh, boy, can't believe I'm going to provide entertainment for this forum!
(I'm the 32 year old)
Soooo..... I ended a nearly 3 year relationship fairly recently (it withered on the vine) meaning I'm out of practice.
Childhood friend of mine (lost touch just before high school) and I had reconnected a few years ago.... And his sister moved back last year.
Long story short:
Been around each other occasionally over the last year, now both single, (never married on either part, no kids, etc)
Apparently the strong attraction is mutual. He (my buddy) gives his blessing, their parents say I'm the best guy she could ever date, she knows I'm a great guy....
But it's a sticky situation. (never dated a buddies sister before)
"technically" we haven't been out on a first date. (although it's planned) But when her former BF didn't take her out to the place he said he would for her birthday, I did, I'm helping her with some long term goals, drank with her all night and held her when he dumped her. (not rebound, her's withered on the vine too) played the gentleman so far.... We've been seeing a lot of each other for the last month and pretty much talking nonstop.
Ok, enough drama/backstory, now for question:
She's going to get treated well, goes without saying, I doubt I'll do anything which will **** off her family.
Buuut, she may be a mature 23 (several characteristics which hold strong attraction, and interest me) but she is still 23, and I've mostly dated older women.
Help?
Neither one of us are interested in rushing it. We can and do talk frankly (something I like) and we are pretty much both wanting to taking it slow, but it's POSSIBLE (not hearing wedding bells or anything) that the other has the characteristics we are each looking for long term. (I even half joked about getting to know her and coming back in 5 years when she voiced concerns she might be too immature for me.)
I'd like to give this an "honest shot" SOOO..... What can I do to mitigate the "age gap"? I realize if we were both 10 years older it would be less of an issue, but she just graduated college, (steady job, not what she wants, but full time with bennifits) I've got my degree, medically retired from the military, and have been self employed for years.
Big life experence difference there.
This was not nearly as salacious as the title and first sentence leads the reader to expect. You have a bright future ahead of you in advertising if the whole self employed thing doesn't pan out.
That was a lot of back story for one simple question. What can you do to mitigate the age gap? Nothing, other than being patient and understanding, same as with any relationship. It will either work out or it won't, same as with any relationship. Best of luck.
It sounds like your the family is good with this, and I would think that this is often the biggest hurdle. Take your time to enjoy each other. If the relationship does develop into a deep romance, take time to make it strong between the two of you. This will make it easier to deal with any critics, because people will be focused on how good you are together vs. seeing an older guy with a young gal.
Don't set up your relationship with hurdles that are only in your mind. Enjoy the wonder of falling in love!
I'll confess I do not think of myself that way (I'm only 32 for crying out loud!)
Although she calls me "old man" and I call her "little girl"
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Originally Posted by ALackOfCreativity
This was not nearly as salacious as the title and first sentence leads the reader to expect. You have a bright future ahead of you in advertising if the whole self employed thing doesn't pan out.
sorry about that.... Didn't think the story would bennifit much if I described her tight little posterior and SUPERB legs!
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Originally Posted by UC18
That was a lot of back story for one simple question. What can you do to mitigate the age gap? Nothing, other than being patient and understanding, same as with any relationship. It will either work out or it won't, same as with any relationship. Best of luck.
(another chuckle) please excuse me for being wrapped up in my life....
My wife is considerably younger than myself. Her folks and mine had no issue with the age diff. Our friends don't either. If you make each other happy...go for it. You go through life worrying about what other people think of you...you may as well crawl into a dark hole and die. Enjoy life man.
(another chuckle) please excuse me for being wrapped up in my life....
It's okay for you to be, as long as you don't expect us to be. 😉
Seriously, you're overthinking it. I dated women that young (and younger) when I was your age. Have fun and enjoy it. It might last long-term and it might not, but either way you probably won't think of the age difference as that big of a deal when you look back on it. If anything the bigger deal is that she's your friend's sister, but you didn't ask a question related to that part.
It sounds like you have some great potential. I think you should just continue what you started, having fun and spending time together. There is an age/life gap, but having history together and her brother's approval go a long way.
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