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You shouldn't feel bad. If it was 3-5 dates you shouldn't feel guilty. You two are not in a monogamous relationship and he doesn't even know you. Be weary of someone trying to go from 0 to 1000 in 1 date.
Why would you feel guilty? Are you leaving out some details? Did you have sex with him and make him feel like you were into him on a special level?
I strongly disagree with the responses on this thread that say--"as long as you haven't made an agreement to be exclusive, and they don't think you're exclusive..." or something to that effect. I don't think you have any obligation to let people you're dating know you're dating others, even if they clearly think you're exclusive. Moreover, even if you've made an agreement to be exclusive with someone, it's not a morally binding agreement, IMO. As long as you're doing whatever you're doing with consenting adults, you have a right to live your life the way you want.
And not only that, but I think it would be a BAD idea to tell anyone you're dating that you're dating other people as well. While it might remove the possibility of a dramatic blowup, it would also probably keep the relationship at a very elementary stage. Knowing that you're one of several people someone is "casually" dating is hardly much of a turn-on.
I strongly disagree with the responses on this thread that say--"as long as you haven't made an agreement to be exclusive, and they don't think you're exclusive..." or something to that effect. I don't think you have any obligation to let people you're dating know you're dating others, even if they clearly think you're exclusive. Moreover, even if you've made an agreement to be exclusive with someone, it's not a morally binding agreement, IMO. As long as you're doing whatever you're doing with consenting adults, you have a right to live your life the way you want.
And not only that, but I think it would be a BAD idea to tell anyone you're dating that you're dating other people as well. While it might remove the possibility of a dramatic blowup, it would also probably keep the relationship at a very elementary stage. Knowing that you're one of several people someone is "casually" dating is hardly much of a turn-on.
LOL... whatever... clearly a post designed to upset people.....
LOL... whatever... clearly a post designed to upset people.....
A forum is supposed to be a place where people can express their opinions, and these are mine. If others are "upset" by it, that's their problem, not mine.
A forum is supposed to be a place where people can express their opinions, and these are mine. If others are "upset" by it, that's their problem, not mine.
True... a forum is a place where opinions can be expressed and if others are offended or upset it is their problem..... I don't have a problem with that.......
I do have a problem with people that offer opinions designed to inflame and insight.... and most certainly that happens on public forum such as CD....
And that isn't a problem of others... it's a problem of the insighter....and that logic isn't hard to grasp and there isn't much of a way to swing/sway/instigate/massage/manipulate that opinion.......the oppressive personality, aka antisocial personality, has a hard time finding a way to parlay that into something else.....
Logic is ****ing logic.... ain't no suppressive personality gonna be able to massage that one....
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True... a forum is a place where opinions can be expressed and if others are offended or upset it is their problem..... I don't have a problem with that.......
I do have a problem with people that offer opinions designed to inflame and insight.... and most certainly that happens on public forum such as CD....
And that isn't a problem of others... it's a problem of the insighter....and that logic isn't hard to grasp and there isn't much of a way to swing/sway/instigate/massage/manipulate that opinion.......the oppressive personality, aka antisocial personality, has a hard time finding a way to parlay that into something else.....
Logic is ****ing logic.... ain't no suppressive personality gonna be able to massage that one....
So an unorthodox opinion is automatically "designed to inflame and insight." Gotcha.
I strongly disagree with the responses on this thread that say--"as long as you haven't made an agreement to be exclusive, and they don't think you're exclusive..." or something to that effect. I don't think you have any obligation to let people you're dating know you're dating others, even if they clearly think you're exclusive. Moreover, even if you've made an agreement to be exclusive with someone, it's not a morally binding agreement, IMO. As long as you're doing whatever you're doing with consenting adults, you have a right to live your life the way you want.
And not only that, but I think it would be a BAD idea to tell anyone you're dating that you're dating other people as well. While it might remove the possibility of a dramatic blowup, it would also probably keep the relationship at a very elementary stage. Knowing that you're one of several people someone is "casually" dating is hardly much of a turn-on.
I'm responding to my bolded black, and, more specifically, red.
If they clearly think you're exclusive, of course you have an obligation to let them know you're dating others. Of course you do.
"Moreover," if you've made an agreement to be exclusive with someone, and you don't consider it to be a morally binding agreement, what would you consider a morally binding agreement?
Are you sure you understand the phrase "consenting adults"? That means you consent to it. If they're not consenting to you seeing other people, that means you're not "doing whatever you're doing" with consenting adults.
What is "of course" to you may be anything but to others. As far as I'm concerned, to say you have to tell that is a gross violation of privacy.
WTH are you talking about?
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