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"Moreover," if you've made an agreement to be exclusive with someone, and you don't consider it to be a morally binding agreement, what would you consider a morally binding agreement?
An agreement is not morally binding if allowing it to be broken upholds something more important than the consequences of breaking it. I think the freedom to sleep with who you want is more important than the likely consequences of breaking a promise to be exclusive.
Are you sure you understand the phrase "consenting adults"? That means you consent to it. If they're not consenting to you seeing other people, that means you're not "doing whatever you're doing" with consenting adults.
It's YOU that doesn't understand "consent." You can't "consent" to someone doing something with someone else. That's not consent, that's illegitimate control.
It's YOU that doesn't understand "consent." You can't "consent" to someone doing something with someone else. That's not consent, that's illegitimate control.
Ok, I'm on match.com and get a lot of emails from guys..i went on one date with this guy who happens to be 5 years younger. I'm 32 and he's 27..usually, after my dates I'll get a text saying they had a good time and they want to go out again..ok,cool..good deal..after my date with him, he texts me the very next day wanting me to go to lunch..I stayed home from work bc I had drank a little too much wine..I told him I stayed home from work and I shouldn't be going out and also I had a massive headache..he said ok I'll come by in an hour and bring you soup..very sweet but once again I just wanted to lay on the couch not feeling well. He called me that night hinting about getting together that night..I said couldnt..then he asked me today to go to the arts show tonight downtown..problem is I have a date already..I told him "sorry I already have plans :/ what are you up to Sunday? He texted back kinda with an attitude he was already doing something..my question is why should I feel bad after one date with someone that I'm going out with others? I'm not in s relationship and this time around im going to date lots until I know for sure..btw we did kiss, cuddle, make out..but no sex..once again we were both drinking some wine..I don't need to hear about why I shouldn't drink on dates...why does this guy have an attitude now?? It was just one date!!
Honestly, as long as he wasn't psycho, this guy kinda sounds like a dream.
I know that's not the answer you were looking for.
Then again, maybe he's only being so attentive because he wants in your pants. *sigh*
My thoughts: You shouldn't feel bad for dating multiple people. You should however let him know that despite you two making out and cuddling on the first date, you want to slow it down some. He probably did get the wrong impression by your first date and he's treating it as such. If you want to continue seeing him so you can get to know him more, you should tell let him your thoughts at the moment. Lack of communication or inability to do it effectively is how relationships fade away.
He just wants to see you again. Blow it off. If he has a better attitude about seeing you later, see him again if you liked him.
I never cared for juggling guys, myself. But, if that's what you want, you should get used to this.
Sorry, even this is judgmental. The guy's a jerk bugging you continually...after, one, two, three, however many dates, until it is exclusive, IT'S NOT EXCLUSIVE! lol So don't feel bad in the slightest...if this guy had some other opportunity you can bet that he'd take it so don't give it another thought!
Dating is a numbers game, the more people you meet, the better your chances are of meeting the right person...and few people can decide on the right person after only one or two dates.
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