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Hello,
I've never been able to do this. I am a very simple person when it comes to things I'm into. Aviation and Pro Wrestling. All three of my ex's laugh at my pro wrestling, although, within time, they start to watch it. Maybe its easy to get into with the cheesy store lines and over the top characters. In all three cases, I never asked them to get into it, but they have sat down to watch an episode or two and then they seem to get into it.
Same with aviation. They have seem my interest and knowledge about airplanes, and it seems to rub off on them. We have gone to airports, flying and (at least so they say) they have had fun.
I have tried to return the favor, whether its Dr. Who, horses, medical documentaries, or tumbler.. I just can't get into what my SO is into.
Has this been an issue for anyone? I really want to return the favor, but I just can't get into their hobbies and interest. I feel so bad they it seems so easy for them to get into mine. Am I being "too real?" Should I pretend? Do you think that in all three relationships, it was merely pretending because "that's what you do"?
I think you'll have to develop at least a mild interest. Otherwise you'll grow apart. You don't have to love everything the s/o is into but, develop interest in as many things as possible.
I think attempting to really listen to them when they talk about it and have a mild understanding so you can follow what they're talking about is enough
I think as long as you are interested in what they are saying about their interests, it's good enough. Don't be overly selfish about it though. For example, my bf wanted to go see some electronica bands. I'm not really into that type of music but I went with him. It ended up being fun. So occasionally participate in their interests if they ask, but you don't have to share every single interest.
I think as long as you are interested in what they are saying about their interests, it's good enough. Don't be overly selfish about it though. For example, my bf wanted to go see some electronica bands. I'm not really into that type of music but I went with him. It ended up being fun. So occasionally participate in their interests if they ask, but you don't have to share every single interest.
I agree with this. It's an issue with lovers and even friends. You'll be into different things, then to avoid being too selfish, you have to give one another's interests a chance.
And sometimes, you can enjoy the company rather than the event. I did pumpkin carving for the 1st time in 010 or 011 I think. It was never something I thought about, but a friend was interested and wanted to hang out, so I went. The carving in itself wasn't a blast, not something i'd do in hobby, but it's fun when you have someone to help you and chat with while engaging in the activity. So the night was a relaxing one.
So if you like the company, somethings the acts can be fun/amusing.
You could both try getting into new stuff together also. Things neither of you have done or tried yet.
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