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I just recently went on a second date with this girl I felt attracted to and now I am extremely confused on whether or not she’s interested. We had a great first date but this one felt a little bit off. We went to a live music event for our second date (one which we showed up extremely early for) and decided to go in and just chat for a while. When I first got to the area we were both lost and I had to go looking for her (which I didn’t mind) so I felt the date got off on the wrong foot. When we found each other I noticed like she like stumbled into me and I caught her (which I’m not what that was about) and walked back to the place. Anyways, conversation was good until certain points where we stayed quiet for periods of times and I’d ask her questions about herself etc. I notice she also kept checking her phone which made me question why she would even accept the invitation to go out if she wasn't interested or had to be elsewhere.
Well, after a while she mentions that she had to pick her brother up at 1AM from a bar and for me to hit my cousin up to see if he was up to anything because she felt bad about making me leave the concert early. Of course, me being the nice guy I said fine and she then followed to continue to ask me to walk her to her car once 1AM arrived (which I didn't mind doing). When the time arrived we left the event and she apologized once more about leaving early in which I said “I just wanted to see you, so it’s ok, I don't mind”. As we're walking I noticed she's shivering so I offer her my jacket (I didn't feel that physical touch was appropriate here) and she says no it's ok; however, while I still should have done so, here comes the confusing part. Her car was a bit further than where I was parked so it was a bit of a walk (once again, I don't mind) and as we're getting pretty close to her area she says "well, if you like you can go back to your car” and instantly became confused as to why she was making such a demand in the middle of the night.
Of course, I didn’t let her walk alone and continued to walk her until we get to 1st floor of the garage (she was parked on the second floor) and she once more reiterated "you can go back to your car if you like" ??? was my thoughts due to confusion. To get to the point, we get to her car we hugged and she says "thank you for coming out again it was fun, let's do it again sometime". Anyways, I sent her a text to let me when she made it home safely as I did not want to call her while she was driving. I didn't get a reply, well the next day I sent her a text thanking her again for last night and that it was great and we should do it again. No answer. I then decided to call her last night to see how her day was going and didn't pick up at all and didn't bother returning my call either. I honestly think that she's not interested and I am prepared to move on but I would like some insight on what I did wrong so I can perhaps not do this again with the next lady I take out. I'd appreciate all the advice I can get, thanks!
The thing is ... The next lady may like everything you did on this date.
I think you're asking the wrong question. Not every date is a match. It is a shame that some people aren't better at being honest when they don't feel a spark. You can't make yourself crazy wondering why someone isn't into you. Be yourself, keep trying, and when you find that person who likes YOU, you won't have to wonder.
Sounds like you did nothing wrong and seemed very sweet considerate and understanding. It's not you, it's her let her go and keep doin the same thing with the next girl
Thanks for responding everyone. What confused me the most was when she said "we should do this again". If you're going to ignore me afterwards why not just tell me there and then that you don't think this isn't going to work out. But, now I feel better knowing that I did nothing wrong and she's just indecisive with what she wants/looking for.
You didn't do anything wrong, it happens, you just move on to the next person. The important thing is that you go out and have fun. You will realize that even when you have fun with someone, it doesn't necessarily mean it's going to turn into a relationship, or even a friendship.
People always say we should do something another day, to be friendly....unless they say "we should do something next Friday" I wouldn't expect it to be an open invitation, or guarantee of any future dates.
Thanks for responding everyone. What confused me the most was when she said "we should do this again". If you're going to ignore me afterwards why not just tell me there and then that you don't think this isn't going to work out. But, now I feel better knowing that I did nothing wrong and she's just indecisive with what she wants/looking for.
I'm guessing she just didn't want to hurt your feelings. But yes, life would be much simpler if people were honest. This has happened to me in the past too, and I'd much prefer just being told that she isn't interested. However, actions speak louder than words and her actions clearly indicate to me she isn't feeling it.
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let her go and keep doin the same thing with the next girl 
