The art of getting over (the past) (dating, women, attracted)
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I am sure there was a topic like that somewhere in here, but each case is different...
To keep it short...is 15 sexual partners a lot for a woman in her early 30s in a city like DC? I have had some major issues getting over that number. Everything else in relationship is great, I am happy and looking forward to commitment. I no longer bring up the issue to her, but it just sits with me and causes some negative thoughts and feelings, especially when away. I just can't stand the fact that she was able to get attracted to so many different guys. Part of me knows it's ridiculous, but these thoughts keep bugging me.
Last edited by RedZin; 03-24-2015 at 02:01 PM..
Reason: Language
I am sure there was a topic like that somewhere in here, but each case is different...
To keep it short...is 15 sexual partners a lot for a woman in her early 30s in a city like DC? I have had some major issues getting over that number. Everything else in relationship is great, I am happy and looking forward to commitment. I no longer bring up the issue to her, but it just sits with me and causes some negative thoughts and feelings, especially when away. I just can't stand the fact that she was able to get attracted to so many different guys. Part of me knows it's ridiculous, but these thoughts keep bugging me.
Did she offer that information or did you ask her about her past? Whatever occurred with other men prior to you entering the picture is truly none of your business; same as whatever you did in your past is nothing she needs to be concerned about. I'm referring to 'relationships'. . . not a past that would include violence, crime, drugs, etc.
If you can't put it all behind you and make peace with it, then you owe it to her to be honest and move on until you find your Snow White Virgin (I know, that sounds ridiculous doesn't it?). . . but in reality, you need to question why you're having such difficulty with her past.
Mod cut. I seriously don't get why people divulge this information or ask. This is one of those things that is better left unsaid. I've never disclosed how many I've been with, nor would I ask. I had one tell me of her own choosing and I just said "okay".
Last edited by PJSaturn; 03-24-2015 at 03:03 PM..
Reason: Off-topic.
You say she's in her early 30s, so for the sake of argument let's say that she's been sexually active for 15 years. That averages out to one sexual partner per year, which is hardly a revolving door on her bedroom.
That isn't that many IMO. I don't understand why people even ask this question of each other. Why does it matter? I honestly don't want to know the # of the person I am dating. What is the point of knowing that information honestly?
You get over it by rationalizing it.
You seem incapable of being able to do so.
You need to address why you Personally cannot rationaize a women with a history. Until you can you will never be anywhere near acceptance (if that is what you honestly want)
All the questions above made me reconsider my attitude, I consider this topic closed. Thanks guys
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