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LOL using Facebook as a dating app gives me the heebie jeebies.
Just because the app itself is so...stalkery. Y'know?
I agree, but need to cast a wider net (Tinder, FB Dating) because OkC and PoF aren't giving the results I desire. I may give Zoosk and Bumble another trial run (a month) just for … "coverage".
I agree, but need to cast a wider net (Tinder, FB Dating) because OkC and PoF aren't giving the results I desire. I may give Zoosk and Bumble another trial run (a month) just for … "coverage".
I think POF would give me like 25 matches and an equal amount of 'super matches' when I used it. Instead of casting a wider net, did you take the time to consider all the matches that were found for you?
To be clear, when I say 30's, I mean she was 35, not 30. She found out because I told her when she mentioned me being 44. I don't remember how it came up, but as soon as I realized she thought I was younger, I told her. We met through the FB dating app. My FB age is wrong because, as Sonic Spork mentioned, thats an easy target for identity theft. In fact, I heard Frank Abagnale speak (Catch Me If You Can movie based on him) early this year on identity theft, and that was one of the first things he said is don't show your real age in FB. I changed it before the dating app came out. Of course a few people on here will call me a liar for that, but whatever. Anyway, after telling her that, it was over.
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LOL using Facebook as a dating app gives me the heebie jeebies.
Just because the app itself is so...stalkery. Y'know?
While FB does have a new dating app, he might not have been referring to that specifically. Swipe apps like bumble and tinder are, or can be, tied your FB account. It imports data and makes selecting profile pics easy. If your birthday is off on your FB account, or hometown is off, both common things, then your age will be off on the dating app.
While FB does have a new dating app, he might not have been referring to that specifically. Swipe apps like bumble and tinder are, or can be, tied your FB account. It imports data and makes selecting profile pics easy. If your birthday is off on your FB account, or hometown is off, both common things, then your age will be off on the dating app.
Bumble just started tying into Spotify as well. I accepted that, as may profiles announce: Anything but "Rap and Hip Hop!" So if it's important to know what kind of music I like, before we meet, I may as well be 'disqualified' right away.
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Bumble just started tying into Spotify as well. I accepted that, as may profiles announce: Anything but "Rap and Hip Hop!" So if it's important to know what kind of music I like, before we meet, I may as well be 'disqualified' right away.
Some can link to IG as well, and that can tell a lot. I only use Instagram for promotion of projects, so I doubt it really does much for me other than show I produce things. I ran across an exes profile with her IG account and its many of the same photo s from her FL account, with minor cropping. Cha Ching.
I think POF would give me like 25 matches and an equal amount of 'super matches' when I used it. Instead of casting a wider net, did you take the time to consider all the matches that were found for you?
Naturally, but since a guy can send out twenty message and maybe get back three polite rejections and one possible friendly response (but not always), I look for interest before sending out a message (ie, a woman viewed me, hit "wants to meet", added me as a "favorite"). Weeding out the too-distant and the scam profiles (a town listed as "Local" or "Nearby" is an obvious scam), and the "MsX only wants to hear from paying members, upgrade now!" money-makers, the ones whose description is "asdfasdfasdf" and the ones that don't appeal to me visually, it doesn't leave much. Sometimes I will scroll my "prospects" and send a message or two but with no expectation of response.
And I think I hit most of the boxes a woman might want, at least at a high level, 6'0", high income, dog lover, home owner, graduate degree, good communication skills and sense of humor, good face. It doesn't seem to matter, my luck is as bad as most of the other male posters here.
I agree, but need to cast a wider net (Tinder, FB Dating) because OkC and PoF aren't giving the results I desire. I may give Zoosk and Bumble another trial run (a month) just for … "coverage".
I just joined both POF and OKC within the last week, and thus far, no responses on POF but a few on OKC. I get plenty of "likes" on both sites, but not many of the "likers" bother to write me an actual message. I find it interesting though to simply browse the profiles and look at the various pictures. I'm an outdoorsy/nature/animal-loving guy, so I gravitate towards people who have pictures of themselves with animals or out hiking or out doing anything outdoorsy.
One thing that I find a bit weird, though, is seeing so many women 50+ posting selfies and full-body shots of themselves standing in front of a mirror -- something that I more associate with teenagers and twenty somethings. I'm 45, but I like women both younger and older, so I select a wide age range for my search criteria. But I never contact anyone who posts those sorts of provocative, revealing types of photos; I find it a bit immature and narcissistic. But obviously the desire to show one's "goods" does not necessarily wane with advancing age. I admit, though, that many of these women look nice and attractive, but there's something about putting that much of yourself out for public consumption that I find a bit distasteful. The whole sexy pose, with the pouty lips, and the accentuated stance, snapping a photo while standing in front of a mirror just seems childish to me! LOL.
But to each his/her own. We all like what we like and do what we do, so my opinion is just that.
Overall, though, I don't have many expectations in terms of actually meeting someone to date and/or just to get to know (which is what i really desire -- just meeting new people for activities/adventures -- and if something develops from that, great; if not, that's ok, too).
Naturally, but since a guy can send out twenty message and maybe get back three polite rejections and one possible friendly response (but not always), I look for interest before sending out a message (ie, a woman viewed me, hit "wants to meet", added me as a "favorite"). Weeding out the too-distant and the scam profiles (a town listed as "Local" or "Nearby" is an obvious scam), and the "MsX only wants to hear from paying members, upgrade now!" money-makers, the ones whose description is "asdfasdfasdf" and the ones that don't appeal to me visually, it doesn't leave much. Sometimes I will scroll my "prospects" and send a message or two but with no expectation of response.
And I think I hit most of the boxes a woman might want, at least at a high level, 6'0", high income, dog lover, home owner, graduate degree, good communication skills and sense of humor, good face. It doesn't seem to matter, my luck is as bad as most of the other male posters here.
Yep. Very similar, but it doesn't matter anymore. I think maybe a big part of it is women don't need men anymore. Women make as much as men and can just get a donor if they want a child. I also think women are way more comfortable (in general) living alone than men. I think the tables have turned. Its now more advantageous for a man to get married than for a woman to. Marriage adds 7 years to a man's life. I think women are fine being alone as they get older, so marriage adds nothing life expectancy wise.
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