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I try looking for decent women and try staying away from clubs, bars places like that. I try the gym, library church, college Judo class...starbucks? women like to hang out there....I don't but lotsa purrdy women like to spend 20$ on a cup of coffee.
And don't say the Internet because you shouldn't have to pay a site to find a lover. Explain.
Who says?
If you have very conventional tastes meeting people IRL is easy. If your idea of a fun night is watching TV or going to a movie, then I agree that it's easy to meet women IRL.
But if you'd prefer to go to a chamber-music concert or a modern dance performance at Jacob's Pillow, the Joyce or Sadler's Wells, and you're also looking for a companion who likes kayaking and hiking, and world-travel, and you only want to date widows (I'm a 62-yo widower) then the odds of finding that combination IRL are very slim. But it's easy online.
OP, if it were me, I would go to functions that I was interested in.
Yes, yes, yes! Choose an activity that you are interested in because that way you'll have fun even if you don't meet anyone, and also when we're sincerely having fun we make a better impression.
More advice: to pick something where you can converse. Don't pick an activity like a concert unless there will be an opportunity before or after to have some real conversation. I like hiking because it attracts women who are physically fit, which to me is good-looking, and because there's lots of time for conversation. And I love outdoor stuff like hiking and kayaking. I met my late wife hiking in the White Mountains of NH.
I usually would find a female either at church, at the mall or possibly at the YMCA
If you're religious then churches and synagogues are fantastic ways to meet people because you start off with a whole community and set of experiences in common, and probably similar values and outlooks. Also churches and synagogues have lots of activities for their members, both relating to the religion and congregation, and also community and volunteer work, so there are lots of things you can do together while building a relationship.
First ,
know who you are.
Seriously and honestly think about your self, and the way you conduct business, and interact with others, and how you deal with problems, loss, and victories.
Spend the time writing a journal about your self your thoughts . leave fantasy out of the equation that is probably one of the biggest problems people deal with ,too much fantasy.
What are your expectation for your self and the kind of person your looking for in a life mate.
Take the time to get to know the other persons friends and if they are people you actually want to associate with , one's friends form the person. these are whom one chooses to identify with.
What kind of relationship do they have with their parents , that is likely going to be the kind of relationship you will see in them.
DO NOT EXPECT THEM TO CHANGE NOR TRY TO CHANGE THEM.
They will change most likely to what their parents were like at the same age.
Nothing is set in stone, but I can safely say "the acorn doesn't fall far from the tree."
Some guy or girl that has been abusing drugs is not some one you want making family . Health issues are a big enough concern screwing up one's chemistry messes it up for offspring as well. fact.
Is your word of any value ? 100% of the time .
People get married but their words mean nothing and the marriage is a farce.
If your making promises your not keeping , keep your mouth shut.
If you can't promise , don't.
And say so.
And why.
Integrity is far more valuable that falsely acquired favor.
If some one can't respect honesty you don't need them in your life.
Funny how men are asking for advice on places they can go out meet women....and women are asking advice how they can catch a good guy online.
Men are looking to meet women and women are sick of being hit on by men.
Serious disconnect with dating in our world today.
Wondering if I am the only one that notices this.
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