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I'm 6'5 and over 300 lbs and a lot of women act like they are scared of me because of my size. Being black does me no favors in this regard either.
No, dissenter, dont blame being big and black. Its because you dont want kids ever, dont want to get married, ever, and have a negative attitude about women and relationships.
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Originally Posted by Yiuppy
No, dissenter, dont blame being big and black. Its because you dont want kids ever, dont want to get married, ever, and have a negative attitude about women and relationships.
Excuse me, girls reject me long before they even find out who I REALLY am and my views. Can't help to think being a very intimidating black male has something to do with it.
Excuse me, girls reject me long before they even find out who I REALLY am and my views. Can't help to think being a very intimidating black male has something to do with it.
It's still their problem, not you. Im not scared of big guys.
Honestly, what more can you expect from this woman?! I do alot of trail walking myself, and while I'm generally courteous ( ) with stangers and familiars (familiar strangers) I have no desire to stop or chat w/ any of these people. That's just "me" though... When I am "too friendly" I end up with some freakin weirdo tryin to be all up in my business..
Well thanx everyone for your input. I think it was me being too sensitive and making a mountain out of a mole hill in the example. In the wider picture the same is probably true when I allow it to color my thoughts/attitude towards other people.
Can anyone take this further? The more information the better.
I think maybe a brighter but softer approach would help. I wonder if my attitude darkens in some situations. Most people can sense that.
Dissenter. Just a few weeks ago I was at an AMPM getting gas and there was a BLACK MAN that could have well been you with an Asian lady (she was tall and large for someone of the Asian persuasion) and they had a kid in the van.
Don't go saying being black is a problem. We're all individuals and most individuals tend to judge one another as such. Anybody who goes by stereotypes is a fool and best avoided anyway. I don't mean to insult you or anything but if what Yiuppy says is true then you need to take a step back and LOOK AT YOURSELF.
There are people you can trust out there and have a good life with.
How do you walk? Weird question I know but think about your body language, facial expression, time of day, surroundings etc.
If it's near dark, you have a serious look on your face, no one else is around and you seem to be walking with purpose-these may be cues to women to keep their distance.
If it's a bright, sunny afternoon, you're smiling and laughing while talking to your neighbor about ordering some girl scout cookies from his daughter and you're moving at a leisurely pace, then it's her problem and you can't really do anything about it.
Another option would be to try to meet this woman (these women?) in another setting. If they live in your complex and you have a tenants association or something, go to it and see if they're there or try getting your mail at different times of the day/week and don't go in your workout clothes.
It might also just be the dog. Mine is kind of an a-hole and likes to bark at people and other dogs to the point that I will leave the path and make him sit until they pass to avoid a potentially bad situation. Admittedly, I need to socialize him better but until I do, that's the best option I have to avoid letting something bad happen. I avoid everyone from little white girls to big black guys unless we know them.
This is the result of fear-mongering by the press, politicians, advertisers, etc., who want to make money off people's fear and a lot of other basically fearful people who listen and believe their crap.
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) with stangers and familiars (familiar strangers) I have no desire to stop or chat w/ any of these people. That's just "me" though... When I am "too friendly" I end up with some freakin weirdo tryin to be all up in my business..
