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Oh yeah I remember that thread. Telling him asap is best. Whatever he chooses to do is up to him. But he at least deserves to know, no matter whether he leaves or not. Are you expecting he will feel less inclined to leave if youre already far along and showing?
I would recommend you have your pregnancy confirmed by a doctor and ask for an ultrasound. After seeing a heartbeat, the chance of miscarriage is much lower.
No sense in getting him all worked up before that.
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He knew I wasn't on birth control, and I know he isn't going to leave.
Then why the hell are you delaying telling him? He seems like he knew the risks and if you think he ain't gonna leave you must feel he is going to own up to the situation. Why delay if all that is true?
I'm just ...not sure if it's too early. Everybody seems to be telling me it's too "early"
Usually (if you're married anyway) you tell your hubby immediately but maybe wait to tell friends and family until there is lesser risk of a miscarriage during the first trimester.
There's little reason to wait to tell the father unless you're hoping against hope that you're not pregnant (or soon won't be).
Look, whatever you decide, PLEASE make sure it is a decision you can live with for at least the next 18 years, until your child will be an adult. Young women (and I am thinking you are young based on your posts) who think that babies are so cute until faced with the reality of sleepless nights, no "me" time, and toddler tantrums, and then refuse to do the right thing for their children end up REALLY hurting the child.
And, yes, I can just hear you, "That's NOT going to happen to me! I will love and care for this child no matter what!" The problem is that literally hundreds of thousands of women have said that, and their children have ended up in foster care or being adopted. (And, yes, I also know that there are hundreds of thousands of young women who have become EXCELLENT mothers.)
So, again, it IS your decision, but please think of the child FIRST before you are blinded by what YOU want.
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