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didnt read thru this thread but am i wrong to think this is a "height" thread in disguise?
Yeah. height isn't brought up anywhere in here. The OP is a bi-lesbian, possible pansexual, woman, who hates women saying they want strong men because it sounds primitive and weak, because they apparently can't defend/help/protect themselves.
I sometimes wonder what it must be like to be a man and not ever have that desire to feel small and safe, in someone's strong protective arms. Not since being a baby held in his mother's arms, I suppose.
It might because they are generally not as fearful in the world. They don't get spooked walking down the street alone at night, as an example. How different the world must look through the eyes of a man.
I just caught this post
kinda weird but thought provoking
fear is what keeps you alive, but as a guy i dont even have a concept of what you just said. haha
Yeah. height isn't brought up anywhere in here. The OP is a bi-lesbian, possible pansexual, woman, who hates women saying they want strong men because it sounds primitive and weak, because they apparently can't defend/help/protect themselves.
haha, thought it might have been an angry short dude
so you saying its just one of those angry feminists instead?
It has nothing to do with physical strength....it's more about competence. I need a man who, whether the hurricane is heading towards the house or there's a mouse in the garage, to be able to say to me "Calm down, Baby, I got it all under control, here's the plan, we're going to be fine". That's when I can relax into a man.
On the contrary, my ex was always a panicky type in crisis, thus I always felt that in a crisis I would have to be the strong one, I would have to reassure and calm him...and that made me feel like I was standing on mud instead of stable ground, like I had no rock to lean on. I don't care if it's old fashioned, it's what gets me aroused, that feeling of safety, of being with a man who is confident in his abilities and knows what he's doing.
One ex, we were camping, and in the middle of the night, he woke me to tell me it was raining and the tent was leaking....I looked at him expectantly, waiting for the next line, what the plan was...and my heart sank as I continued to wait, and realized he was waiting for ME to come up with the plan. That made me feel totally unsafe, if he can't make a decision to protect us from something simple like that, what's he going to do in a real crisis?
My last bf, he had a narrow bed, sometimes when we'd be rolling around having sex, I'd feel like I was going to roll off onto the floor...my bf would catch that momentary look in my eyes, grab me and pull me up into him and whisper "Don't worry, I've got you"...that is IT for me, that is what makes me feel safe, and swooney, and in love.
I do think we're programmed to feel that way, btw.
haha, thought it might have been an angry short dude
so you saying its just one of those angry feminists instead?
Possibly a man-hater, who hides behind the guise of being a "feminist." But I can't say. I don't know them, but they seem to get worked up about what other women do with themselves, and like. They also started a thread about hating women who are butch and it's annoying lesbian women don't look or act like women.
I don't get it. If you're always searching for someone who can be there to protect u and you can't protect yourself? And protect them from what? Other men?
This is like saying women are too weak to protect themselves and that we somehow have to rely on men.
Yes that is exactly what it means and always has meant...no need to overthink it.
Our preferences and emotional proclivities need not bear much relation to our actual situations in life. Men who are avowedly child-free might still be strongly physically attracted to women with anatomical features most conducive to successful pregnancy, childbirth and lactation. Women who are successful professionals, scientists, executives, administrators or whatnot, might still be attracted to a "masculine" man with the character-traits, behaviors and physical features connoting "protection". This bears no direct relation to actual physical safety walking down a poorly-lit street at night, or hypothetical response to a prepper-style "disaster" scenario. This follows from the assumption that our preferences are less the result of calculation or response to our actual lifestyle circumstances, than innate predilections and instinct.
Of course tastes differ, and of course not ALL men or ALL women will evince some easily-described preference. And it might be rare for women or men to actually verbalize their preferences, to others or even to themselves! But if there are prevailing trends, then one's dating-behavior can presumably be altered to comport with those trends. If it turns out that most women in a given society, or at least the plurality of women, are attracted to men with long hair, then there's value for men to grow their hair long. There's still no guarantee that a long-haired man would enjoy a dating-advantage, and it's certainly stupid to do this for a man who is uncomfortable with long hair and who would feel that such a styling would importune him and reduce his quality of life substantially. But if it's no particular hardship for him, and has been definitively shown to be a dating-advantage, then there's good reason to attempt it.
So… do women prefer men who in some regard can "protect" them? I would say: there's good reason to think so, of course with awareness of ample exceptions. How to translate this into actual behavior? That unfortunately is far more opaque.
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That made me feel totally unsafe, if he can't make a decision to protect us from something simple like that, what's he going to do in a real crisis?
