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I saw this topic on another forum and found the discussion pretty interesting. Most men had either experienced or were under the impression that women will leave them if they were ever unemployed for whatever reason (fired, laid off, quit, hiatus to go to school, etc.). They feel this is ironic considering many women claim that they, themselves, are strong and independent and don't need a man to take care of them.
So what has your experience been? What would you do?
My husband has never been unemployed in the time we've been together, but of course I would stay with him if he were. I'd expect him to do just what I did when I was unemployed; apply for jobs and pick up the slack as far as cooking and cleaning. I spent a lot of time looking for sales on food so we could save money on our grocery budget. It takes longer, but when you're unemployed you have time for that.
I'll admit, I wouldn't handle it nearly as well if he quit his job randomly with no plan. That is just irresponsible, IMO.
I'll admit, I wouldn't handle it nearly as well if he quit his job randomly with no plan. That is just irresponsible, IMO.
Sure, I can't blame you for quitting on the spot with no reason. But what if his health was at stake due to stress? And what if the tables were turned and you were the one stressed out? Would you expect him to stay with you?
Of course. I'm actually shocked that someone would leave their partner over such a thing... unless of course it is a deliberate choice and will put the family in dire straights.
Preferably not too long of a stretch, but if it is due to reasons beyond his control and we otherwise have a good relationship, I would try to wait it out.
Preferably not too long of a stretch, but if it is due to reasons beyond his control and we otherwise have a good relationship, I would try to wait it out.
Men and women have to be prepared for the possibility to go a long stretch of time without employment if you lose your job in today's economy. If a woman is willing to dump the man because he can't find a job even if he's looking as much as he can and trying to market himself in the best way, that says a lot about that woman.
My husband has not worked since before we were married. He does a lot of other things for us, and I earn enough to support us so there is no need for him to work.
Would it be nice? Yes. But at this point it's been so long I doubt he could really get much of a job. Maybe something minimum wage.
My mother had a problem with our situation for a long time. I just figured she raised me to be independent and not depend on "some man" to support me. So when I was looking for a partner, I didn't need to concern myself with their financial situation. Their emotional and physical support were much more important to me.
I would definitely stay with my guy. That is what a relationship is all about. Supporting each other.
Now if he sat around playing video games all day for months with zero effort to find another one, that would be a different story.
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