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Hi, I feel that I'm in an "unfair"/one-sided relationship. I was just looking for your opinion on this, and if you could offer any advice. I have tried to talk to my gf about it, but, she just doesn't see it, feeling her reactions are completely justified. It may be important to note that we're both in our early 20's and have been dating for almost two years. I don't recall this being quite as bad as it was in our early months (honeymoon stage, perhaps)..
A few examples:
If I were to get busy with homework or housework, I tend to leave my cell phone on a table somewhere. If I am gone about an hour, I'll get 4 text ("where are you, haven't heard from you etc") along with two missed calls often with swearing involved, what's wrong with me, how come I can't pick up my phone, what possibly could I be doing etc. Its perfectly fine for her to forget her phone in her jacket when she's helping her family or doing..well..whatever, and not to hear from her for an hr, 2 hr or even 3, only to get a text "sorry, I was__".
Perfectly fine for her to kick my dog, call my cat an a$$shole, but I have to "learn to love her dog".
She can be hours late when we want to hang out, but if I were to say "I'll be at your house at 4" and its 4:05, I'll get a text "where are you?? Thought you would be here by now!"
Perfectly fine for her to come home from work and go straight to bed complaining of a headache (she has a very easy day, which often consist of sitting on the couch playing on facebook all day), but when I have a long day at work or school (or a combo of both), oh would Sh*t hit the fan if I were to say "I'm tired, I want to go to lay down", I did that once and got the "uh, you should visit with [her] mom."
So, yeah you get the point. Like I said, I feel communication is very important and have communicated these issues, and basically pointed out the examples I said above. She doesn't seem to get it and feels completely justified and each case. Any other ideas? I feel a bit lost.
Hi, I feel that I'm in an "unfair"/one-sided relationship. I was just looking for your opinion on this, and if you could offer any advice. I have tried to talk to my gf about it, but, she just doesn't see it, feeling her reactions are completely justified. It may be important to note that we're both in our early 20's and have been dating for almost two years. I don't recall this being quite as bad as it was in our early months (honeymoon stage, perhaps)..
A few examples:
If I were to get busy with homework or housework, I tend to leave my cell phone on a table somewhere. If I am gone about an hour, I'll get 4 text ("where are you, haven't heard from you etc") along with two missed calls often with swearing involved, what's wrong with me, how come I can't pick up my phone, what possibly could I be doing etc. Its perfectly fine for her to forget her phone in her jacket when she's helping her family or doing..well..whatever, and not to hear from her for an hr, 2 hr or even 3, only to get a text "sorry, I was__".
Perfectly fine for her to kick my dog, call my cat an a$$shole, but I have to "learn to love her dog".
She can be hours late when we want to hang out, but if I were to say "I'll be at your house at 4" and its 4:05, I'll get a text "where are you?? Thought you would be here by now!"
Perfectly fine for her to come home from work and go straight to bed complaining of a headache (she has a very easy day, which often consist of sitting on the couch playing on facebook all day), but when I have a long day at work or school (or a combo of both), oh would Sh*t hit the fan if I were to say "I'm tired, I want to go to lay down", I did that once and got the "uh, you should visit with [her] mom."
So, yeah you get the point. Like I said, I feel communication is very important and have communicated these issues, and basically pointed out the examples I said above. She doesn't seem to get it and feels completely justified and each case. Any other ideas? I feel a bit lost.
It's not your cat that's the a$$hole in this household! It's your "girlfriend"!
Hi, I feel that I'm in an "unfair"/one-sided relationship. I was just looking for your opinion on this, and if you could offer any advice. I have tried to talk to my gf about it, but, she just doesn't see it, feeling her reactions are completely justified. It may be important to note that we're both in our early 20's and have been dating for almost two years. I don't recall this being quite as bad as it was in our early months (honeymoon stage, perhaps)..
A few examples:
If I were to get busy with homework or housework, I tend to leave my cell phone on a table somewhere. If I am gone about an hour, I'll get 4 text ("where are you, haven't heard from you etc") along with two missed calls often with swearing involved, what's wrong with me, how come I can't pick up my phone, what possibly could I be doing etc. Its perfectly fine for her to forget her phone in her jacket when she's helping her family or doing..well..whatever, and not to hear from her for an hr, 2 hr or even 3, only to get a text "sorry, I was__".
Perfectly fine for her to kick my dog,call my cat an a$$shole, but I have to "learn to love her dog".
She can be hours late when we want to hang out, but if I were to say "I'll be at your house at 4" and its 4:05, I'll get a text "where are you?? Thought you would be here by now!"
Perfectly fine for her to come home from work and go straight to bed complaining of a headache (she has a very easy day, which often consist of sitting on the couch playing on facebook all day), but when I have a long day at work or school (or a combo of both), oh would Sh*t hit the fan if I were to say "I'm tired, I want to go to lay down", I did that once and got the "uh, you should visit with [her] mom."
So, yeah you get the point. Like I said, I feel communication is very important and have communicated these issues, and basically pointed out the examples I said above. She doesn't seem to get it and feels completely justified and each case. Any other ideas? I feel a bit lost.
From your post, your gf is insulting you and kicking your animals (which is never good, violence is never good). I would advise you not to take it. I would not take this type of behavior from a SO.
Maybe you can talk to her and explain that you are not happy with the situation. However if things do not get better, I would just think if this is the relationship I want to be in.
JMO
(please do not allow people to hurt an animal. They are very defenseless )
Hi, I feel that I'm in an "unfair"/one-sided relationship. I was just looking for your opinion on this, and if you could offer any advice. I have tried to talk to my gf about it, but, she just doesn't see it, feeling her reactions are completely justified. It may be important to note that we're both in our early 20's and have been dating for almost two years. I don't recall this being quite as bad as it was in our early months (honeymoon stage, perhaps)..
A few examples:
If I were to get busy with homework or housework, I tend to leave my cell phone on a table somewhere. If I am gone about an hour, I'll get 4 text ("where are you, haven't heard from you etc") along with two missed calls often with swearing involved, what's wrong with me, how come I can't pick up my phone, what possibly could I be doing etc. Its perfectly fine for her to forget her phone in her jacket when she's helping her family or doing..well..whatever, and not to hear from her for an hr, 2 hr or even 3, only to get a text "sorry, I was__".
Perfectly fine for her to kick my dog, call my cat an a$$shole, but I have to "learn to love her dog".
She can be hours late when we want to hang out, but if I were to say "I'll be at your house at 4" and its 4:05, I'll get a text "where are you?? Thought you would be here by now!"
Perfectly fine for her to come home from work and go straight to bed complaining of a headache (she has a very easy day, which often consist of sitting on the couch playing on facebook all day), but when I have a long day at work or school (or a combo of both), oh would Sh*t hit the fan if I were to say "I'm tired, I want to go to lay down", I did that once and got the "uh, you should visit with [her] mom."
So, yeah you get the point. Like I said, I feel communication is very important and have communicated these issues, and basically pointed out the examples I said above. She doesn't seem to get it and feels completely justified and each case. Any other ideas? I feel a bit lost.
You relationship doesn't have ANYTHING to do with fairness/unfairness. It's got more to do with a total lack of respect on her part. Sounds like you've got a major beeyotch on your hands.
If this hasn't always been her behavior, odds are she's tired of the relationship and is lashing out as a measure to push you away OR she's become so comfortable with you kissing her a** that she's lost all respect for you.
Either way, you need to put a stop to her behavior.
Thanks for the replies. Yeah, its hard to see her kick the dog (or I guess its more of kneeing as she grumbles a few swears and says "get out of my fking way", BUT STILL). Seeniorita, you are perfectly right, I think its the latter though (the talks of marriage and kids aren't really a sign she's trying to push me away) but rather is becoming too comfortable with it.
Hi, I feel that I'm in an "unfair"/one-sided relationship. I was just looking for your opinion on this, and if you could offer any advice. I have tried to talk to my gf about it, but, she just doesn't see it, feeling her reactions are completely justified. It may be important to note that we're both in our early 20's and have been dating for almost two years. I don't recall this being quite as bad as it was in our early months (honeymoon stage, perhaps)..
A few examples:
If I were to get busy with homework or housework, I tend to leave my cell phone on a table somewhere. If I am gone about an hour, I'll get 4 text ("where are you, haven't heard from you etc") along with two missed calls often with swearing involved, what's wrong with me, how come I can't pick up my phone, what possibly could I be doing etc. Its perfectly fine for her to forget her phone in her jacket when she's helping her family or doing..well..whatever, and not to hear from her for an hr, 2 hr or even 3, only to get a text "sorry, I was__".
Perfectly fine for her to kick my dog, call my cat an a$$shole, but I have to "learn to love her dog".
She can be hours late when we want to hang out, but if I were to say "I'll be at your house at 4" and its 4:05, I'll get a text "where are you?? Thought you would be here by now!"
Perfectly fine for her to come home from work and go straight to bed complaining of a headache (she has a very easy day, which often consist of sitting on the couch playing on facebook all day), but when I have a long day at work or school (or a combo of both), oh would Sh*t hit the fan if I were to say "I'm tired, I want to go to lay down", I did that once and got the "uh, you should visit with [her] mom."
So, yeah you get the point. Like I said, I feel communication is very important and have communicated these issues, and basically pointed out the examples I said above. She doesn't seem to get it and feels completely justified and each case. Any other ideas? I feel a bit lost.
She kicked the dog??? Awwwww HECK NAWWWW... she's got to go!!! I'd let a dude hit ME before I let him hit my dog. At least if he hits me, I can pick up a cast-iron frying pan and knock him into eternity. My dog can't do anything but whimper and cower away... heck naw. That's a deal-breaker.
Somebody needs to get-to-packin.
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