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OP why the rush to have sex? You didn't even know the guy well. As you can now tell his actions are strange to you.
Good question, I don't know other than I wanted to and it felt right at the time. I guess I just thought after spending 6 weeks together I deserved more than a short text blowing me off.
I'm sorry, OP. Definitely sounds like he doesn't want to see you anymore. I've had this happen to me as well, and know a lot of friends who've had the same thing done to them. Everything seems great and like things are headed towards a relationship, and then poof! Who knows why. Maybe they aren't ready for a relationship, met someone else, it's frustrating for sure.
Good question, I don't know other than I wanted to and it felt right at the time. I guess I just thought after spending 6 weeks together I deserved more than a short text blowing me off.
At what point did the sex happen? Could this be a case of he-got-what-he-wanted, so he's moved on to other conquests? It doesn't make sense that you were getting along great, then he comes up with this nonsensical excuse that he doesn't know if the two of you are on the same page. Especially so suddenly after inviting you to dinner.
At what point did the sex happen? Could this be a case of he-got-what-he-wanted, so he's moved on to other conquests? It doesn't make sense that you were getting along great, then he comes up with this nonsensical excuse that he doesn't know if the two of you are on the same page. Especially so suddenly after inviting you to dinner.
Not until about 3 weeks in, and honestly I kind of initiated it. I really don't think that's it at all, he made a lot of effort to do things in public, not just hang out at home and in the bedroom. He came to my house last weekend for game night with a bunch of my friends and had a great time. Tuesday everything seemed fine, then he seemed distant the next few days, but I knew he was busy at work, then Friday, BAM that text. Frustrating that he assumes "we're not in the same place" when we haven't even discussed what that place is! Just be a grown up and talk to me!
Met a guy on match about 6 weeks ago, saw each other once a week for the first 3 weeks, but emailed/texted almost daily, not a lot, we both definitely prefer to speak in person. Then started hanging out 2/3 times a week, we have so much in common.
I last saw him on Tuesday, he asked me out to dinner, everything seemed fine. Since then the communication really stalled and his replies were very short. So last evening I sent a text just asking if he was ok, that I know his work has been crazy and just wanted to make sure everything was cool. His reply, “yea I’m fine. I’ve just been thinking and not sure if we are in the same place with all of this”. Ok then… I just replied back telling him I appreciate his honesty and to let me know if he’d like to talk about it since we obviously aren’t quite clear on what the other wants. I also said I’d hate to just walk away due to a misunderstanding. No reply back yet… I know he has his son this weekend too so I’m just going to pull back and see what happens.
The thing is, he pursued me, I wasn't really into him until after the 3rd date or so, then really started to get to know him and like him. And now this? We are both divorced, I'm 45, he's 41 so we are not young dumb kids.
Obviously. Some people act like nothing bothers them. It's disappointing to meet someone you really like and then be told it's not going to work out out of nowhere. Clearly she's going to move on, but it still sucks. And it's weird to go from hanging out with the person's friends and everything is great, to boom done, over.
Obviously. Some people act like nothing bothers them. It's disappointing to meet someone you really like and then be told it's not going to work out out of nowhere. Clearly she's going to move on, but it still sucks. And it's weird to go from hanging out with the person's friends and everything is great, to boom done, over.
Thanks, yes it does suck! He was even talking about stuff we could do this summer, baseball games, ride his motorcycle, etc., nothing concrete, but acting like he was going to stick around. And yes, I am moving on...I just bought tickets to go to a baseball game this weekend with a coworker.
eta: we are still FB friends, I won't delete him because I think that's a passive aggressive thing to do, at least not yet. He's welcome to delete me anytime though, he's not an active user at all, maybe one post a month.
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