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Well well well, guess who contacted me last night after 6 weeks of NC? I have not replied and don't know if I will. Of course, the text was sent while I was on a 2nd date with a really nice guy I just met. It's like they really do have a sense that tells them when we've moved on.
His text basically said he got freaked out but really liked our time together. He's been thinking of me and is sure I've met someone else by now, but he was taking a chance and reaching out.
Haha love it!!
And yes those texts always come when you're in a date with someone!
Let us know if you reply!
Maybe I'm crazy, but I say if you really liked him and feel you had a strong connection, maybe give him another chance?
Well well well, guess who contacted me last night after 6 weeks of NC? I have not replied and don't know if I will. Of course, the text was sent while I was on a 2nd date with a really nice guy I just met. It's like they really do have a sense that tells them when we've moved on.
His text basically said he got freaked out but really liked our time together. He's been thinking of me and is sure I've met someone else by now, but he was taking a chance and reaching out.
you shouldn't take everything so seriously. You were never in a relationship with that guy and it's impossible to know if somebody is the 1 in a few weeks. I say if you like him then give him a break. You're not married. You're both single and looking. Just don't have sex with him. Then see if he sticks around. Couldn't hurt.
you shouldn't take everything so seriously. You were never in a relationship with that guy and it's impossible to know if somebody is the 1 in a few weeks. I say if you like him then give him a break. You're not married. You're both single and looking. Just don't have sex with him. Then see if he sticks around. Couldn't hurt.
I tend to agree with this, but only if you were really into him. I wouldn't make a habit of going back to men who do the disappearing act, even if it was only a couple of weeks of seeing each other.
I tend to agree with this, but only if you were really into him. I wouldn't make a habit of going back to men who do the disappearing act, even if it was only a couple of weeks of seeing each other.
I agree. I wouldn't feel compelled to go back out with him either. The water just isn't clean. You dated shortly for a reason. I did the same thing with someone back in November. She contacted me and was really sincere about us talking again. In hindsight, it was a bit of a nightmare for both of us. We were both so guarded to not make a mistake with each other, that it seemed a little fake. When I finally let my guard down and was really emotionally vulnerable, she pulled the rug out from under me. She's had a new boyfriend for over 4 months now, that's a much better fit for her.
While 4 months later, I'm more guarded than I've ever been before emotionally. Just about every woman I meet I just tell them I'm not looking for a relationship. Fun is all I want, and they can stick with it or they can go find another man.
The whole dating process is really hard and it's really frustrating too. For me right now, it's not worth the investment for me. For you, you're dating a guy now that seems nice, try to stay focused on him. Trying to juggle both guys will likely end you up in a situation where you end up losing both of them anyways.
What I've noticed from dating is in the first 3 months, if the dynamics seem to not gel very well, then you two are just likely not a good match. It's all about feeling that connection. My last 3 breakups have all had the same tone with them. For a relationship this young, it shouldn't be this hard. They were right too. It really shouldn't be that hard, so why go back down that road when it was so hard the first time?
I agree. I wouldn't feel compelled to go back out with him either. The water just isn't clean. You dated shortly for a reason. I did the same thing with someone back in November. She contacted me and was really sincere about us talking again. In hindsight, it was a bit of a nightmare for both of us. We were both so guarded to not make a mistake with each other, that it seemed a little fake. When I finally let my guard down and was really emotionally vulnerable, she pulled the rug out from under me. She's had a new boyfriend for over 4 months now, that's a much better fit for her.
While 4 months later, I'm more guarded than I've ever been before emotionally. Just about every woman I meet I just tell them I'm not looking for a relationship. Fun is all I want, and they can stick with it or they can go find another man.
The whole dating process is really hard and it's really frustrating too. For me right now, it's not worth the investment for me. For you, you're dating a guy now that seems nice, try to stay focused on him. Trying to juggle both guys will likely end you up in a situation where you end up losing both of them anyways.
What I've noticed from dating is in the first 3 months, if the dynamics seem to not gel very well, then you two are just likely not a good match. It's all about feeling that connection. My last 3 breakups have all had the same tone with them. For a relationship this young, it shouldn't be this hard. They were right too. It really shouldn't be that hard, so why go back down that road when it was so hard the first time?
Yes, I agree! I think if we did "hang out" again, it would be awkward, I'd be over thinking everything I said, etc. AND, the new guy is really, really nice and seems to be in a place where he knows what he wants, none of this wishy-washy crap.
Trranslation= "The other person I was seeing and chose to go with didn't work out, after all...but, hey, you're still around, right?"
Yes, I agree. It may have even been his ex. Maybe he thought he had a chance to get her back? Anyway, he's going to always have bs excuses for you if you were to continue to date him. Stick with the new guy.
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