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Only a feminist would equate taking their husband's last name with being "property"
I threw that out there because I have heard the silly argument before and knew at least one of you would take the bait, and you did...
And only an uppity feminist would equate taking her husband's last name with being property or "erasing heritage", etc
Why get married? Why have a wedding ceremony, rings, etc I mean it's just tradition
Then clearly you don't know your history, when women became their husband's property upon marriage, as well as any children they bore. Yes, human beings treated as property, what a lovely tradition. Even later when women became "Mrs. George Smith" - so her first name meant nothing either. It's a ridiculous, backwards tradition that needs to go.
There are plenty of people who are doing away with "traditional" wedding ideas. Good for them
And yes, I am a proud and uppity feminist who likes my name and plan to keep it. Any man who doesn't understand that doesn't understand me and would certainly never become my husband.
And yes, I am a proud and uppity feminist who likes my name and plan to keep it. Any man who doesn't understand that doesn't understand me and would certainly never become my husband.
Ha! After doing some reading on Dutch naming conventions, I've learned that women do not typically give up their maiden name upon marriage, and it is given precedence in legal matters. So my retention of my maiden name is perfectly appropriate for a woman of Dutch ancestry, even though I did not know it at the time of my marriage.
Yep, a bunch of selfish feminists who are more concerned with proving some point like they are nobody's property or some such BS.
I find it highly disrespectful and would not stand for it
What the actual heck is selfish about keeping your maiden name? Jesus. I would counter that it is very egocentric of you to feel that you are entitled to such a thing. It's MY name, for crying out loud.
Personally, I would, but any woman who doesn't isn't being selfish or "disrespectful". To think so, would be absolutely ridiculous. You need to keep that esteemed ego in check.
What the actual heck is selfish about keeping your maiden name? Jesus. I would counter that it is very egocentric of you to feel that you are entitled to such a thing. It's MY name, for crying out loud.
I think it is a societal norm, it's an accepted practice that you do this. Deviating from this for no valid reason I feel it to be disrespectful. And it's not YOUR name if you get down to it... it's your DAD's name. Just remember that. He gave it to you and your mom. Surname has always been from the Patriarchal side. This goes back Centuries.
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Personally, I would, but any woman who doesn't isn't being selfish or "disrespectful". To think so, would be absolutely ridiculous. You need to keep that esteemed ego in check.
So you don't think it is disrespectful to go against societal norms for selfish reasons?
I mean honestly, please justify your reasoning for wanting to do this other than "I feel like it" or "i'm not anyone's property"... if that's your argument, then you lose
Outside of some sort of name recognition thing, which I think is valid and would accept that, I have not seen one valid argument for it
Let me go a step further, if you keep your maiden name and you have a child, whose last name does the child get?
I changed mine after being married for a year and half. It was just laziness though.
I have now changed it and I am still the same person I always was and my family heritage is still in tact. I could have left it as was, but it seemed like taking my husbands name was the right thing to do. It seemed natural.
If you have kids and don't take your husbands last name, what name do you give your offspring? I'm just curious how people work that one out.
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