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The Utopian relationship; the perfect match; pure synergy; nothing but happiness.
Aside from a normal spat due to being two humans with different points of views (the kind where within an hour you've kissed and made up), does a relationship exist where it just plain works on all cylinders where there is never an issue that truly challenges the relationship?
Sure, I've been married going on 34 years, and that's a long time based on today's statistics. But I'm holding on to a thread right now. So many things in my life right now, and many in the past, that is straining the marriage.
Just wondering if anyone here in this forum section reads other peoples woes and sits back and just doesn't understand how anyone can have problems, thinking to themselves everything is near perfect. And don't answer in denial, pretending it's all good. Be truthful.
In all honesty, up until a couple of years ago I would have answered this question with a Yes. The marriage went for 31 years until things started breaking down, even with many challenges along the way, challenges my wife and I handled in unison. But right now that's gone, and in it's place is sadness and doubt.
No perfect relationship here. I'm my own special brand of dysfunction. I don't understand why people post some of the questions they do......
I'm contemplating one on housework, I think I pretty much know the answer, but I still feel an urge to complain and/or commiserate. I have GFs to talk to, but I'm not getting what I need from that, whatever it is. /lol
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I've held on by a thread before. I've also asked for guidance before, but about parenting and neighbors, not my husband. Confiding in someone is the opposite of announcing something publicly ... that's just not me.
No, no real relationship problems that I have posted about. Probably not my style, anyway. I find much of the threads here to be of the "you have got to be kidding me" type. Hard to believe the questions people ask on a forum, especially personal ones. But as to your question, I don't think anyone has a "perfect" relationship.
I can figure it out on my own, whatever it is. And like Chessie said, a lot of this stuff has me shaking my head. A majority of these questions are people not being able to hammer out such mindbogglingly simple and basic human interactions, it makes me weep for the future.
I have to be honest. When I was in my late teens to early twenties, I was like some of the younger guys posting here. The difference is I did something about it and bettered myself instead of blaming someone else. At this stage in my life, I think I mostly have it figured out. I do know if I encountered a big red flag I would not stay in some relationship like I did when I was younger. I think a big problem with this forum is too much rehashing over the same things, and a lot of it is common sense stuff.
Mine may not be perfect...yet I have no complaints.
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