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Fellas: If your wife wanted a girlfriend, would you allow it? Let's hear it?
Would you allow your wife to have a girlfriend?
(i.e.- long term intimate relationship with another female)
Nope. If she was that type we would have never gotten to the place where we were married, let alone a serious relationship. That kind of stuff you have to vet out in the "dating" part of the relationship to see if the person actually qualifies for LTR or more.
Having a "girlfriend" is cheating and that is in direct opposition to the vows we made when we got married.
I would think that the majority of sane people would not be okay with their spouse having an outside sex partner no matter the gender.
My ex had no problem with this, I did things with girls while we were in a relationship, he didn't mind and often encouraged me to embrace my sexuality. But at the same time, I wasn't with having a threesome, and I know that ultimately since he had several before me, that this was his end goal.
Negative, thats not how I envision a marriage or any committed relationship. It would be easier for me to remain single and have all the threesomes I want with single females. If my wife/SO seriously brought up such a subject, I know our relationship has run its course.
No, that isn't my view. I would want a sexually monogamous one, but that is between the two people at hand.
The poster said their vows indicated sexual monogamy, or that doing so would be in "direct opposition" to his vows. I've just never heard those vows.
I also don't believe in "implied" or "assumed" monogamy, I step up and have the clear conversation about what is ok and what isn't. That would occur well before any marriage.
People can be not married and have strict monogamy, and people can be married and not have monogamy. They're two separate things. I, personally, don't think most people wait to have marriage for monogamy, and open relationships aren't nearly as rare as people think. In fact, assuming anything or banking on implied anything is a bad move in any relationship.
No, that isn't my view. I would want a sexually monogamous one, but that is between the two people at hand.
The poster said their vows indicated sexual monogamy, or that doing so would be in "direct opposition" to his vows. I've just never heard those vows.
I also don't believe in "implied" or "assumed" monogamy, I step up and have the clear conversation about what is ok and what isn't. That would occur well before any marriage.
People can be not married and have strict monogamy, and people can be married and not have monogamy. They're two separate things. I, personally, don't think most people wait to have marriage for monogamy, and open relationships aren't nearly as rare as people think. In fact, assuming anything or banking on implied anything is a bad move in any relationship.
I don't believe a person should have to "step up" and ask their spouse to remain sexually monogamous. Not even in a LTR
If it was a male: no.
Not just because I'm heterosexual, but because I can wrap my brain around "women having different equipment to offer" than I do.
I'd expect it to "go bad" eventually though.
...but I'd still consider it.
-an ex of mine had 3 friends (FFM) who were "a trifecta" they all wore rings, were exclusive, lived together, seemed very happy, and had been together for.... I'm not sure how long but I know over 5 years.
So it happens.
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