Teaching boyfriend a sport: manly or not? (women, love, single)
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I invite you to come to Munich next winter. We will put you on skates and get you doing laps to the "An der schönen blauen Donau" waltz with three hundred Japanese tourists and a few dozen Russians sitting around, each chewing on his bratwurst and clicking his camera
I think that one of the first things people need to learn in order to get out of their adolescence adequately is that they need to get over themselves and realize that no one is looking at them and no one gives two craps about what they're doing or how silly they look or how their hair is or if they had a run in their stocking or any of that. You are not the center of the universe. Most people really don't care what you're doing or how you look or if you are a dork.
Frankly, I can't believe that you even care what a bunch of strangers from other countries that you will never see again think about you guys ice skating. I almost guarantee that no one is even going to look at you. They are all absorbed in their own little world probably wondering if you think they are big dorks because their camera strap doesn't match their lederhosen.
Being self conscious actually takes a whole lot of ego because you have to believe that other people really care what you're doing. They don't.
I think that one of the first things people need to learn in order to get out of their adolescence adequately is that they need to get over themselves and realize that no one is looking at them and no one gives two craps about what they're doing or how silly they look or how their hair is or if they had a run in their stocking or any of that. You are not the center of the universe. Most people really don't care what you're doing or how you look or if you are a dork.
Frankly, I can't believe that you even care what a bunch of strangers from other countries that you will never see again think about you guys ice skating. I almost guarantee that no one is even going to look at you. They are all absorbed in their own little world probably wondering if you think they are big dorks because their camera strap doesn't match their lederhosen.
Being self conscious actually takes a whole lot of ego because you have to believe that other people really care what you're doing. They don't.
The problem isn't if people are judging you or not, they most definitely are, the problem is people aren't confident and comfortable enough to care what others think. I honestly do not care what people think of me, but that doesn't mean they don't judge, they most certainly do.
The problem isn't if people are judging you or not, they most definitely are, the problem is people aren't confident and comfortable enough to care what others think. I honestly do not care what people think of me, but that doesn't mean they don't judge, they most certainly do.
Maybe one out of ten people is actually having a passing thought about you.
Maybe.
But why care what a stranger thinks?
I think that one of the first things people need to learn in order to get out of their adolescence adequately is that they need to get over themselves and realize that no one is looking at them and no one gives two craps about what they're doing or how silly they look or how their hair is or if they had a run in their stocking or any of that. You are not the center of the universe. Most people really don't care what you're doing or how you look or if you are a dork.
Frankly, I can't believe that you even care what a bunch of strangers from other countries that you will never see again think about you guys ice skating. I almost guarantee that no one is even going to look at you. They are all absorbed in their own little world probably wondering if you think they are big dorks because their camera strap doesn't match their lederhosen.
Being self conscious actually takes a whole lot of ego because you have to believe that other people really care what you're doing. They don't.
Don't ever let what other people think ruin your joy or keep you from experiencing things.
You have one life to live AND a passing thought from someone who won't ever think about it again in their lives isn't worth missing out on fun.
Maybe one out of ten people is actually having a passing thought about you.
Maybe.
But why care what a stranger thinks?
I disagree with your first sentence here, but your last question I do agree with.
No one should care, but they do because they are often judged by their peers. It's a process, but the end result should be to not care or feed the superficial segregation society paints.
I disagree with your first sentence here, but your last question I do agree with.
No one should care, but they do because they are often judged by their peers. It's a process, but the end result should be to not care or feed the superficial segregation society paints.
It will take time, but you will soon see you are barely a passing thought to most people.
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