Fellas: If your wife wanted a girlfriend, would you allow it? (boyfriend, girlfriends)

[Rocco Barbosa]

Let's hear it?

Would you allow your wife to have a girlfriend?

(i.e.- long term intimate relationship with another female)

[HappyFarm34]

You mean with sex? No. That is if I was man lol.

[jsun556]

Don't all women have "girlfriends"?

Or are you referring to an intimate relationship with another female?

[sdquarle]

Yes but only if I was included in the bedroom.

[Rocco Barbosa]

Originally Posted by sdquarle

Yes but only if I was included in the bedroom.

That's certainly a part of the "deal"

[sdquarle]

My live-in girlfriend discussed this pretty early on in our relationship.

We came to the conclusion that the girlfriend would have to be likeable by both myself and her and I would be included in the bedroom activities.

At this point it is all hypothetical but I think I feel okay about it assuming the emotional side of our relationship remains consistent and unchanged.

[timberline742]

Depends on the relationship. There is no one answer.

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by sdquarle

My live-in girlfriend discussed this pretty early on in our relationship.

We came to the conclusion that the girlfriend would have to be likeable by both myself and her and I would be included in the bedroom activities.

At this point it is all hypothetical but I think I feel okay about it assuming the emotional side of our relationship remains consistent and unchanged.

If your wife wants an intimate female friend, the emotional side of your relationship has already changed and is not consistent with the way it was before.

[Lafleur]

Personally, I'd feel like there was a breakdown in the relationship, assuming this wasn't something that was agreed upon in the beginning. I would prefer to get at the source of that issue before being okay with something like this. The physical aspect of it is appealing, in a fantasy-esque kind of way. Emotionally, however, I think I would be hurt if she said she wanted this. I would feel like I wasn't providing everything she needed, and as your typical guy, I think that's an important feeling for us to have.

[Ashleyga]

I would never allow my (future) husband to have a 'boyfriend'. Therefore, I wouldn't proposition something like that. I live by this: Two is company, three's a crowd. Crowds are messy.