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I said that because even though you enjoy being alone, you don't know if you're happy or not, just comfortable. Would you like to have a relationship if you have no anxiety or other issues? Would your choice be different if you knew you can overcome your anxiety issues and found yourself in a relationship, that you're a happier person?
Those questions are very hard to answer since I don't know the other sign of the coin. I value my freedom above everything else so I don't know if I could ever commit to someone...I can't say I wouldn't enjoy having someone around who could understand me and have fun with me but those people are a drop in the ocean.
I'm 34 and I've never had a girlfriend. Never had sex as well. It's not that I've ever been shy but I've always felt uncomfortable if a girl started to get too close to me. I've always had a group of friends, went out at night a lot while I was at university, I studied abroad for a year as well and met lots of people, I participated in activities.
I've suffered from anxiety since I was kid and it's under control at the moment. I function as a normal person and I've always managed to challenge my anxiety when it came to school and my job since not working was not an option. However, since dating is optional, even the thought of approaching a woman or getting a kiss from one is enough to send shivers down my spine.
Apart from that, I'm very independent and I don't like to answer to anybody. I enjoy getting out of work at 7 PM, go to have dinner by myself somewhere and get home around midnight without having to explain myself to nobody.
I gave up on the idea of ever having a relationship when I was 22 and I've been happy with my choice. I recognise my limitations, I don't enjoy getting out of my comfort zone so why fight it? I have a good job, my own house and car, a terrific mother and fantastic siblings and nephews. I pay my taxes and I'm a good citizen.
I exercise everyday, I go for a stroll and a bar every weekend and I try to help friends whenever I can.
To be honest it's pretty easy to fulfill my pledge since no woman has ever had an interest in me. I've a few friends who couldn't possibly make it since they always had women throwing themselves at them all the time.
if this is the life you wish to lead, so be it. its your choice. but i can tell that you are not happy. my advice to you is to push your comfort envelope. start dating women. you dont have to be exclusive with them, but get out and expand your horizons.
Somehow, I get the feeling that the OP is hoping we all chime in with compliments and encouragement, telling him he has so much to offer and he really should put himself out there because some woman will be very lucky to have him, and it's such a loss that someone as wonderful as he is has chosen to deprive women of his company.
Point being that at 30 years of age, if he was really that secure in his decision, he'd feel no need to seek validation from a million strangers.
Sorry, not buying any of it. If you want to sequester yourself away, OP, have at it. With 7 billion people on the planet, no one is going to notice.
Hmmm...no, not really. I try to be down-to-earth and I'm in no way a "catch". I could be a lot of trouble to a woman and I know I don't have much to offer.
I'm sorry if that's how I came across but you completely misunderstood me.
I'm 34 and I've never had a girlfriend. Never had sex as well. It's not that I've ever been shy but I've always felt uncomfortable if a girl started to get too close to me. I've always had a group of friends, went out at night a lot while I was at university, I studied abroad for a year as well and met lots of people, I participated in activities.
I've suffered from anxiety since I was kid and it's under control at the moment. I function as a normal person and I've always managed to challenge my anxiety when it came to school and my job since not working was not an option. However, since dating is optional, even the thought of approaching a woman or getting a kiss from one is enough to send shivers down my spine.
Apart from that, I'm very independent and I don't like to answer to anybody. I enjoy getting out of work at 7 PM, go to have dinner by myself somewhere and get home around midnight without having to explain myself to nobody.
I gave up on the idea of ever having a relationship when I was 22 and I've been happy with my choice. I recognise my limitations, I don't enjoy getting out of my comfort zone so why fight it? I have a good job, my own house and car, a terrific mother and fantastic siblings and nephews. I pay my taxes and I'm a good citizen.
I exercise everyday, I go for a stroll and a bar every weekend and I try to help friends whenever I can.
To be honest it's pretty easy to fulfill my pledge since no woman has ever had an interest in me. I've a few friends who couldn't possibly make it since they always had women throwing themselves at them all the time.
Since you live independently, you could be an asexual person. That's normal, although not common. Not everyone wants to date or be in a relationship. Relationships are overrated and the source of a lot of drama in one's life, as well as one of the main causes of homicides
Those questions are very hard to answer since I don't know the other sign of the coin. I value my freedom above everything else so I don't know if I could ever commit to someone...I can't say I wouldn't enjoy having someone around who could understand me and have fun with me but those people are a drop in the ocean.
I think you badly want a relationship but have self esteem and other issues. It's cool I understand the facade. If you're truly happy living the life of freedom you wouldnt be here posting.
Who says I live as an island? I'm just a realist who knows his limits.
That's fine. Live your life on your terms. I'm only adding my two cents because you suggested that other people, who are trying to find love, give up and follow your lead. That's what I'm objecting to.
That's fine. Live your life on your terms. I'm only adding my two cents because you suggested that other people, who are trying to find love, give up and follow your lead. That's what I'm objecting to.
Well, I said some of them could very well gain much by doing that.
Since you live independently, you could be an asexual person. That's normal, although not common. Not everyone wants to date or be in a relationship. Relationships are overrated and the source of a lot of drama in one's life, as well as one of the main causes of homicides
I can't be asexual since I'm sexually attracted to women and masturbate regularly.
Just curious. ......what would you do if you did find a woman that you meshed well with?
Well I would be happy with that but I would still think she would deserve someone better.
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