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Out of curiosity, if you've got a 5 year old with your "fiance," and you're "Christian," why are you not married? By no means am I saying that you can't have a stable relationship/family without being married. I just don't understand why in your case, you're not. Is there a particular reason you two aren't married? That's my first red flag.
Why did YOU get a message via social media about this other child? (I'm asking based on how you worded the sentence). Why did your fiance lie and call this woman "crazy," which required you to "investigate?" Why do you need to investigate anything? The situation was a fairly simple explanation, and while it would be unacceptable to me, technically, he didn't cheat. If he had come right out and said what happened, you could at least consider his actions to simply be bad judgement and work through it. More red flags.
Regardless of what type of woman this is, or what her profession may or may not be, you said that they formed "some type of relationship," even if it was strictly monetary. So, this woman was good enough to lay up with, without protection, but is not the type that he wants to have "a situation" with? Red flags galore.
You described your relationship as having "ups and downs, but nothing too horrible." What the heck do you consider to be horrible, because this fits the criterion? You've known about this possibility for at least 3 years. So, are you saying that the paternity question hasn't been that big of a deal to you for the last 3 years? I mean, you're still with the guy. Are you now questioning whether or not you want to be with him?
Your fiance is a liar. I'd bet the house that he's lied about a lot of other things too. Whether or not he's an actual cheat is debatable. He will not accept any responsibility for his actions. He could take the doggone test and be done with it, one way or the other. You're not his wife. It's not your responsibility to make this work, especially since he won't. You already know what type of man you have. It's not wrong or right to break up with him. It's not wrong or right to stay with him. It's simply your personal decision. But, if you leave, are you sure he's going to pay child support?
I don't see how any of this is a winning situation for you. But since its been three years, apparently it can't be that bad. With that said, my favorite of your story is in bolded red - what is she...a free taxi?
You CAN see their opinions, not necessarily the real situation. (which is my point.)
A valid point indeed. How in hell the OP's allowed this level of uncertainty to drag on for 3 years is just beyond me.. 6 pages and she hasn't made a second appearance yet..smh
Apparently, there is some sort of Magic 8 Ball that helps with randomly picking and choosing what information parsed out of the OP is "fact" and what information is suspect.
I know who had been in that situation. She dumped him. You're being used by a man that doesn't love you to marry you and instead cheating. Your baby daddy is the sleaze along with the mom.
Yes but they don't go around having illegitimate children.
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