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If these hot women expect a decent down-to-earth guy to approach them while they just sit there, of course they will be lonely. Can't complain if guys that are not worth their time approach them while they see nice guys walk past them and do nothing about it.
How would they know a random guy walking by is a nice guy/good guy? They wouldn't have any idea.
Women in that situation should do what we advise shy people to do; get involved in group activities where they can meet people, and men can get to know them as the down-to-earth people they are. Some of these women get stuck in the same rut guys do, of going to clubs thinking that's where they'll meet prospects for an LTR. If it's not working for them, they should try something completely different.
Do you think there is a number of a hot women who men assume are saturated with male attention or already taken, but are in fact lonely and hoping for guys to talk to them?
That's not how the food chain works so I don't think so.
Because desireable females, those we think that are attractive, young, and fertile only exist in the age range of 15-40 yrs old. (Hypothetically speaking) The most desirable age range is 18-25 yrs old, a very small % of the female population.
While available males competing for them ranging from 15-80 yrs old.
.... that you have to be really rich to "support" a girl like this and they just can't afford it. If you aren't driving a fancy car, living in a fancy house, how can you really think a girl looking like that would go for YOU?
So, if you're a woman who looks amazing, "average" men are thinking they can't pull you while not being rich....so, those women miss out on "well off enough" guys who have a lot going on other than a huge bank account.
Just as "average" women are missed out on, who otherwise have a lot going on for themselves, who are just seeking the average, "well-off enough guy".
It's sad to think that males will think so poorly of themselves, that all is needed to equate themselves with someone having particular looks, is wealth and status. Also, the idea that if a woman is physically appealing, she can only possibly be seeking such.
It's tiring to see these terms ("those women", "looks amazing", a girl "looking like that"), with apparent assumptions made of them, to be SO coveted, as if a man's life will be entirely fulfilled, with one. That all they need to do is be with a female who "looks like that" and everything will just be fine.
There are hot women who only get approached by sleazes, because the good guys are too shy, too intimidated, whatever. There are attractive women who rarely get approached, because yes, men tend to assume they're taken and that it's pointless to approach them.
Not to mention all the average women who are under people's radar altogether.
Or...
They are in a relationship with a sleaze or are living with a controlling jerk.
How would they know a random guy walking by is a nice guy/good guy? They wouldn't have any idea
We won't know if a guy/girl is nice or not until we approach them and see what they are up to. A girl can't complain she doesn't meet nice guys if she doesn't do her part. Just sitting there acting cute waiting for a guy to approach her doesn't do much. Like you said, group activities sounds like a good option. May ease off the pressure some may feel in clubs and bars.
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We won't know if a guy/girl is nice or not until we approach them and see what they are up to. A girl can't complain she doesn't meet nice guys if she doesn't do her part. Just sitting there acting cute waiting for a guy to approach her doesn't do much. Like you said, group activities sounds like a good option. May ease off the pressure some may feel in clubs and bars.
It's sad to think that males will think so poorly of themselves, that all is needed to equate themselves with someone having particular looks, is wealth and status. Also, the idea that if a woman is physically appealing, she can only possibly be seeking such.
It's just one of those things men and women go through differently. Women feel this pressure to be as thin as a twig, try to look young and use all kinds of products to slow down the aging process, lose weight, etc. Why? Because men place some importance to a woman's looks before seeing the whole package. We know where the obese, over the hill woman ends up compared to the young slender sexy woman. For men, there's this pressure to show a good economic status or they will be seen as no good. We all know where nice guys who live in their parents basement, no car, no job, and no money, end up compared to a nice guy who happens to be rich, drive a nice cool car, and lives in a fancy house.
Generally speaking, men and women place importance in certain traits.
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