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I been seeing this guy while going thru separation . He and I worked together for 3 months or so. He used to be in to me until we started sleeping together then he slowedly distancing and emailing and texting me every 3 or 4 days. Then he always finds reasons to not see me . I know he works nights and suppose to have to 2 jobs and sees his daughter every other day.
We had our biggest arguement about a month ago. I was over it. So I started healing. Then he calls me one night . He used the book.he had that I lent him which I have provided him an option in mailing , instead said he wanted to see me and talk . So we did and he said he really cares for me . On christmas day , I called to wish him a Merry Christmas and he said I love you babe and Merry Christmas. Then New Years Day I get a plain feeling. I HAVE told him to let me know if he wants me to leave him alone and if he is seeing others I will be more than happy for him. I just need him to be honest. HIS answer is that I over analyze things and that he has asked me to not do this. When all I am asking for is that should I or not continue ? .
Anyways , I know I am worth it. I KNOW i AM better deserving . He also gives me empty promises and says . Our relationship will improve as soon as he gets his own place since he lives with his parents right now and when I finally move out and live separately from the same location as my husband and soon to be ex.
Pls help..How can I slowly heal from this and let him go and move on. What should I do when he reels me in ? .
Does your husband love you? Stay with him and leave this guy. You can deal with him when both of you are in a better place to start over. Right now, you both seem to be too engrossed and occupied with your own separate lives for whatever reasons.
I am sure there should be a reason you kick him to the category of EX and you want to reunite,,, honestly I would not do that. That is just make my self more miserable.
I reunited with an ex. Due to our schedules, I can only see him one day on the weekends (and of course some weekends I cannot). He works insane hours, 7 days a week. And is traveling for about a week, once a month.
However, I do not see how seeing each other once a month can possibly lead to anything in the future. 4 dates in 3 months...
He does text me about every 3 days, but it's usually just "hi", and a couple sentences.
Can this bloom into anything? In my mind, I think he knows he is married to his work, and this will never change. Any similar experiences?
I reunited with an ex. Due to our schedules, I can only see him one day on the weekends (and of course some weekends I cannot). He works insane hours, 7 days a week. And is traveling for about a week, once a month.
However, I do not see how seeing each other once a month can possibly lead to anything in the future. 4 dates in 3 months...
He does text me about every 3 days, but it's usually just "hi", and a couple sentences.
Can this bloom into anything? In my mind, I think he knows he is married to his work, and this will never change. Any similar experiences?
- Bingo. One date a month might not be enough to fall in love or sustain love in a relationship. I would shoot for at least one date a week. Keep in mind many people see each other everyday.
By the way, this is the underlying problem with long distance relationships - only one out of a thousands works.
I been seeing this guy while going thru separation . He and I worked together for 3 months or so. He used to be in to me until we started sleeping together then he slowedly distancing and emailing and texting me every 3 or 4 days. Then he always finds reasons to not see me . I know he works nights and suppose to have to 2 jobs and sees his daughter every other day.
We had our biggest arguement about a month ago. I was over it. So I started healing. Then he calls me one night . He used the book.he had that I lent him which I have provided him an option in mailing , instead said he wanted to see me and talk . So we did and he said he really cares for me . On christmas day , I called to wish him a Merry Christmas and he said I love you babe and Merry Christmas. Then New Years Day I get a plain feeling. I HAVE told him to let me know if he wants me to leave him alone and if he is seeing others I will be more than happy for him. I just need him to be honest. HIS answer is that I over analyze things and that he has asked me to not do this. When all I am asking for is that should I or not continue ? .
Anyways , I know I am worth it. I KNOW i AM better deserving . He also gives me empty promises and says . Our relationship will improve as soon as he gets his own place since he lives with his parents right now and when I finally move out and live separately from the same location as my husband and soon to be ex.
Pls help..How can I slowly heal from this and let him go and move on. What should I do when he reels me in ? .
Here are your steps:
1- Separate from your husband.
2- Live separately from your husband
3- Divorce your husband
4- Develop your own personal passions and interests.
5- Learn to be alone and happy with yourself by yourself.
6- Start dating AFTER you have done 1 through 5.
I reunited with an ex. Due to our schedules, I can only see him one day on the weekends (and of course some weekends I cannot). He works insane hours, 7 days a week. And is traveling for about a week, once a month.
However, I do not see how seeing each other once a month can possibly lead to anything in the future. 4 dates in 3 months...
He does text me about every 3 days, but it's usually just "hi", and a couple sentences.
Can this bloom into anything?
No. Regardless of how many hours a man works he will always find a way to fit you into his schedule. He will call or text you daily to say hi or goodnight. I suspect he is seeing someone else and you are his backup in case that relationship falls through. Don't delude yourself. He is not that into you.
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