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A brand new poster, and a 28 year old dating a 60 year old hmmm? Oh well, if you are sincere, his problems in the bedroom will get worse as he ages. It has nothing to do with you; it just happens sometimes. Also, I think this age difference happens a lot less than men would like it to. I am about your age, and I don't find many 60 year old men attractive. They are my father's generation, and we don't have anything to talk about.
Over the winter, I inadvertently found myself getting more involved with a man that has been a friend and mentor to me for the past 3 years. We are now dating but since I am finishing up school and stressed he agreed to somewhat put off a full-blown relationship until I am done. We still see each other every couple weekends. I'm almost 28 and he is around 60.
There are of course pro's and con's to dating older men. He is actually LESS experienced than I am in the bedroom, and while our sex life is sometimes great, other times he has a hard time staying erect or orgasming. This happened the last time I saw him, and it makes me feel really insecure and crummy about myself, which also affects how attractive I find him. In addition, his regret over not having more sexual partners in his earlier life makes me a tad bit angry, since it seems every guy (no matter what age) I date feels this way, and indirectly reflects onto you as a second choice to all the women they could have had. However, I believe/hope that he would be loyal and treat me well.
To add to that, I am experiencing my own quarter-life crisis. I am nearing 28 and am only now finishing up my Bachelor's degree. I have no idea what career I can get once I graduate. I've always imagined myself as single and enjoy the solitary life, though am admittedly closed off from previous heartbreaks. Adding someone into the picture is frightening and foreign. It's hard to give up my freedom. While I have feelings for this guy, I also have an intense desire to run away from him and the rest of my current life.
Advice?
you dump this guy because it is not going to work.
I had a crush on one of my college professors, who was probably in his 60s. I was 20. I have no idea how you "inadvertently" started dating and having sex, but I would have dallied a while if I were single and he made a move. So it's not beyond the pale, as far as I am concerned. However, if you want marriage and children, move on soon and don't waste time you can't get back.
I'm in my 40s and its hard for me to find much in common with someone who is half my age. We go through changes both physically and emotionally as we age... with that age difference two people will be in different stages i their lives. I'm not saying it can't work out but its going to be a relationship that demands special care.
Over the winter, I inadvertently found myself getting more involved with a man that has been a friend and mentor to me for the past 3 years. We are now dating but since I am finishing up school and stressed he agreed to somewhat put off a full-blown relationship until I am done. We still see each other every couple weekends. I'm almost 28 and he is around 60.
There are of course pro's and con's to dating older men. He is actually LESS experienced than I am in the bedroom, and while our sex life is sometimes great, other times he has a hard time staying erect or orgasming. This happened the last time I saw him, and it makes me feel really insecure and crummy about myself, which also affects how attractive I find him. In addition, his regret over not having more sexual partners in his earlier life makes me a tad bit angry, since it seems every guy (no matter what age) I date feels this way, and indirectly reflects onto you as a second choice to all the women they could have had. However, I believe/hope that he would be loyal and treat me well.
To add to that, I am experiencing my own quarter-life crisis. I am nearing 28 and am only now finishing up my Bachelor's degree. I have no idea what career I can get once I graduate. I've always imagined myself as single and enjoy the solitary life, though am admittedly closed off from previous heartbreaks. Adding someone into the picture is frightening and foreign. It's hard to give up my freedom. While I have feelings for this guy, I also have an intense desire to run away from him and the rest of my current life.
Advice?
Ask yourself where do you see yourself in 10 years.
Do you really love him and can you imagine yourself at 38, established in your career spending your time caring for your 70 year old husband and being happy doing that.
28 is the age of beginning a career and family. He is half in the grave. Good golly! How old are her parents?!
I'm really finding this thread hard to believe.
ED is not a medical 'problem' for a guy who is 60. It's a natural protection from the body so as to not die while trying to perform such a stunt as sex.
Why is this hard to believe? My parents are 57. My dad plays basketball 5 times a week. That's more exercise than most 20 year olds.
I haven't actually asked him how old he is. I don't see him very often because of school, so age is not the first thing we talk about when I do. He has good genes - hardly any white hairs. Let's say he is above 50 for sure.
If you're not having sex when you're 60 I feel bad for you son. Everyone knows people who do it more live longer!
Don't take it personally he has "equipment failure" sometimes during sex. Half the men over 40 experience erectile dysfuncation and it is not you. Sometimes we get feelings for those who are not our age. It happens. While he has no grey hair now, is healthy and active, and probably looks good, here is the problem. This is why I am not in a relationship with a cute little gal half my age. Maybe not this year or next year, but he WILL get grey hair, get wrinkles, lose energy and become less active, and at some age develop health problems. We all do. Wrost case he could just up and die on you.
So...while all is well now, it won't stay that way. I am sure at over 50 he doesn't want children, so you need to be ok with that. You also need to realize the time will come when you are a 30's - 40's woman who still likes/needs sex, and he can't participate. This much age difference is a setup for failure.
That being said, if you two can have fun without getting too attached and agree that it has no future, I say go for it as long as it works for you.
To add to that, I am experiencing my own quarter-life crisis. I am nearing 28 and am only now finishing up my Bachelor's degree. I have no idea what career I can get once I graduate. I've always imagined myself as single and enjoy the solitary life, though am admittedly closed off from previous heartbreaks. Adding someone into the picture is frightening and foreign. It's hard to give up my freedom. While I have feelings for this guy, I also have an intense desire to run away from him and the rest of my current life.
Advice?
Well, new member, you accept that he's 60 and that the older a man gets, the more difficult it is for him to get and maintain an erection.
Ambivalence is no way to be in a relationship. Let the poor guy go. You're too young for him. He's too old for you.
There, I said it. Thirty-two years is more than your entire life in one giant age and generation gap.
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