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I am a bit nervous because my wife has been in contact with a old co worker of hers on the email. And she has been in communication with him on and off on the email and they are agreeing to meet for coffee. I know that he is single. My wife and I have been married for 45 years and we have 3 grown children and we also have grandchildren. I know that he has a good job also. I am retired from my career and it seems as she is looking forward in meeting him and I worry if when they meet they can get flirty because they both like to talk. What should I do?
Talk to your wife, let her know that you are feeling a bit apprehensive and just ask her to stay open with you. If you have a good relationship, a coffee date isn't going to threaten it, and if you don't have a good relationship, it's probably a little late to worry about this particular guy.
Going forward, I would say to make sure the lines of communication stay open, and find ways of letting your wife know how much you love her and appreciate her. It takes a lot more than a coffee date to break bonds that have been strengthened over the years by mutual trust, kindness, good communication, cooperation, and frequent words and tokens of appreciation. If those bonds have not been forged and maintained, it hardly takes anything at all to destroy them.
I am a bit nervous because my wife has been in contact with a old co worker of hers on the email. And she has been in communication with him on and off on the email and they are agreeing to meet for coffee. I know that he is single. My wife and I have been married for 45 years and we have 3 grown children and we also have grandchildren. I know that he has a good job also. I am retired from my career and it seems as she is looking forward in meeting him and I worry if when they meet they can get flirty because they both like to talk. What should I do?
Why, exactly, are you nervous?
Has she said or done anything to make you nervous?
How long have they been in contact? Is this something new, or have they stayed in touch off and on since they worked together? How far away does this guy live? Is the coffee meeting just because he's passing through town, or does he live nearby?
I'd hate to think that the spouses of the guy friends I had in my teens or twenties would be suspicious of our occasional get-togethers for old times' sake, just because I'm single. Or that the wives of work colleagues wouldn't want me working on projects with their husbands, just because I'm single. Can you see how that could be discriminatory?
Without more info, it's hard for us to try to judge what's going on. Have you talked to your wife about it? This may be nothing to worry about. Maybe you're feeling insecure, because you're retired, or you feel inadequate in some way?
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