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If we're talking about physical attraction, I don't see how it's possible to consciously lower one's standards. I'm either sexually attracted to a woman or I'm not. I will say that the range of women I would bang has expanded as I've gotten older, but that could be an evolutionary response to a diminishing number of options.
If we're talking about physical attraction, I don't see how it's possible to consciously lower one's standards. I'm either sexually attracted to a woman or I'm not. I will say that the range of women I would bang has expanded as I've gotten older, but that could be an evolutionary response to a diminishing number of options.
You say that in the same sentence as "evolutionary".
I guess some people feel sex with someone ugly is better than the nothing they may currently be getting. Again this is just for plain old sex. I could see lowering standards there.
Lowering them for a "relationship" is tougher, and could cause problems depending on how far you're going with it. So that advice isn't sound. Unless the single person is unhappy with being single. If they can't stand not dating someone, and they can't find the total package, then sure. A compromise needs to be made.
Otherwise, if you're fine with being single, I say keep your standards high if it works, or if you're happy being single until you find it. You win either way. Because neither is a punishment or misery.
Last edited by HappyRain; 06-20-2015 at 06:24 PM..
If we're talking about physical attraction, I don't see how it's possible to consciously lower one's standards. I'm either sexually attracted to a woman or I'm not. I will say that the range of women I would bang has expanded as I've gotten older, but that could be an evolutionary response to a diminishing number of options.
not that you "did"?.... either become more attractive yourself or go shop at Walmart
A lot of people I know that in highschool and shortly after dated really attractive people have seemed to end up with people that weren't as attractive in some cases to the point where I was absolutely surprised. I'm not saying that any of these people lowered their standards because I don't know but I would say you would be surprised at the number of people that fall in love with people that physically you wouldnt have expected. I do think it's possible to lower standards based on that.
Right now I could not lower mine-Im pretty shallow and just can't but perhaps it wouldnt be too difficult if I met a wonderful man that wasnt as attractive as I'd like but that absolutely compensated in every way possible.
Well let's say hypothetically that Joe is a janitor (nothing wrong with that) who makes minimum wage and looks like a gremlin. He keeps on going for famous models who reject him and complains that he can't find anyone.
One example of someone who should lower his standards.
Or a guy who decides he doesn't want to be with a woman because her elbows are too pointy (but everything else is good).
It's about putting things into perspective also and figuring out what is truly important in life. Does he REALLY have to make six figures? Does she REALLY have to have a perfect body? Will this drastically change your happiness? Probably not.
You can program yourself to think anything, if you really want to make changes in your life.
Maybe it's not lowering of standards at all...it's more refining what is important.
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