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Not one person has answered how to get over the sadness I feel when I think about marriage not being in my cards.
Go out to bars and ride motorcycles in your free time?
Seriously...I think you need to quit thinking you'll never get married.
It's a bit early to be making that call at the ripe old age of almost 37.
That's how to get over being sad. Don't be. You have nothing to be sad over.
You cannot go back in time and wait to have kids with a decent husband and even if you did, you would have no way of knowing if that marriage would last, he'd be stricken with an illness, run off with his secretary during a midlife crisis at 40, or get kidnapped by aliens.
So, really, you are the only reason you are sad. You're employing catastrophic thinking when it is wholly unwarranted.
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I'm not sure serial monogamy is any more productive than casual dating, when the end result is you viewing it as time "wasted" when he doesn't put a ring on it.
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I am not a casual dater by nature. I have a relationship until I dont. Most last years, like more than 5. I am now going to do two year time limits and
Move on.
I'm not sure serial monogamy is any more productive than casual dating, when the end result is you viewing it as time "wasted" when he doesn't put a ring on it.
That's a good point. It's probably easier to justify serial monogamy, but if your end goal is to get an MRS. degree then I'd say that NOT being a serial monogamist is bound to be less frustrating.
I would absolutely go for casual dating and keeping a FWB around (the guy the OP is dating now would probably be good for that sort of thing, since he seems disinterested in settling down or actually making any sort of formal commitment) for sex and light entertainment.
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Well it's true. I have been an insurance adjuster and insurance agent and still qualify for foodstamps.
Which means you're poor. Focusing on getting off welfare should be a bigger goal than getting married.
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