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Some of the responses here are un-necessarily mean. If you don't want to offer support or advice to the OP, why post at all? Would you say the same thing to her if you were face-to-face?
Oh this has zero to do with my current relationship, which is extremely new.
But even if it's new it is still a relationship, so what's with all of this angsting? Why not just enjoy what you have now? Who knows what might happen.
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Some of the responses here are un-necessarily mean. If you don't want to offer support or advice to the OP, why post at all? Would you say the same thing to her if you were face-to-face?
You don't have the history. She has been posting the same types of stuff for months and months on end. Same story. Same rejecting of sincere advice. Same lack of humility and lack of self awareness.
Some of the responses here are un-necessarily mean. If you don't want to offer support or advice to the OP, why post at all? Would you say the same thing to her if you were face-to-face?
Yes, I would if she whined about poor me I can't find a good man and what am I doing wrong like she has. You bet I would.
Not one person has answered how to get over the sadness I feel when I think about marriage not being in my cards.
Well maybe start thinking it is in the cards for you. Know your worth and that some day some guy would be lucky to have you as his wife! Keep thinking that nobody would ever marry you and I promise you nobody will, it's called a self fulfilling prophecy.
I'm all for partying. Even once a weekend. And I've dated single moms, one quite seriously. But it would totally turn me off it the reason she was living her kids with sitters was to go do shots and ride motorcycles around (especially while on public assistance). Sorry. It's the truth.
Yeah... I can see how that would be.
Leaving your kids with a sitter to go to a nice restaurant, even if you do have a few drinks, and then go see a movie or some other such activity seems like something a parent would regularly do.
Leaving your kids with a sitter to go do shots and ride around town on the back of a Harley (both of these together, not separately, and on a Saturday night or whatever) seems more like vacation activity or the thing you do when your old friend from college shows up in town and you haven't seen him/her for months/years.
And there's nothing wrong with it.
For example, leaving one's kids with a sitter to go out on a Sunday afternoon and take a long bike ride with a guy isn't unusual behavior for a mother.
I think the regular weekends in dive bars and the wild, cut up stuff is what might throw people off.
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