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Please quote where I said I expect everyone to change? The only person I have the power to change is myself. I have absolutely no desire to waste my life trying to change other people.
If someone is boring to me, I generally look for someone more interesting to talk to.
I apologize, wrong thread. I though I was still in the thread where the girl was complaining about "boring" guys and how "interesting" guys don't stick around.
Please quote where I said I expect everyone to change? The only person I have the power to change is myself. I have absolutely no desire to waste my life trying to change other people.
If someone is boring to me, I generally look for someone more interesting to talk to.
I believe it is.
If she is by chance the boring one in the relationships, and she very well may be, then it's something she needs to evaluate and work on, as it is no one else's job to be her constant entertainment. No one can change her but her. On the same note, if every person she's dating is boring (unlikely) then she needs to seek out people she finds interesting because she will not be able to make them more interesting to her.
If she is by chance the boring one in the relationships, and she very well may be, then it's something she needs to evaluate and work on, as it is no one else's job to be her constant entertainment. No one can change her but her. On the same note, if every person she's dating is boring (unlikely) then she needs to seek out people she finds interesting because she will not be able to make them more interesting to her.
7 pages into this thread, and nobody has yet mentioned that the OP's predicament exactly mirrors Groucho Marx's quip: "I refuse to join the sort of club that would accept me as a member".
If we're sufficiently interesting ourselves, then unless our partner is a total dullard or an obdurate fool, there ought to be sufficient liveliness and spontaneity for the couple.
Just because the guys you met (that you say are attracted to you) look like all the rest (that you say you are not attracted to), doesn't mean they are boring or that they don't have potential. Ever heard of the saying, don't judge a book by it's cover?
The best part is finding out if they only like to work and play videos, watch TV is pretty easy to assess and you can rule those out quickly! Just stick around to see if the guys who DO have more interests might be of interest to you after you know them better.
If you are judging a man by his looks, or by preconceived ideas and believe that one man is like another, so why bother... and I am not saying you do. But it seems like you lump certain looks of concepts of what these men are like, those you separate into the "boring crowd" quickly. And if you do that, you are eliminating a great deal of men who may have had potential after getting to know them. I'm not talking about men you go out with a number of times and they aren't right. Great. You've found THAT MAN is not right.
Move on to the next candidate.
Definitely. And IMO, she's hung up more on persona than actual person.
Don't take this the wrong way, but it sounds like you prefer bad boys and drama over a loyal, nice guy. If you continue down that path, you're headed for unhappiness. People are often less boring when you take more time getting to really know them, although I admit this is not always true. Also, I wouldn't friendzone guys, as that gives them a false impression that there may be hope for them in the future. Just be honest and tell them you aren't interested. Just my two cents.
So you're basically saying it is impossible for me to have a relationship with someone I'm actually attracted to? And who does more than work then come home and watch tv? That does not sound right.
If that really is the reality of dating (which I doubt), then I dunno if I want to date if it means getting stuck with a boring, unattractive person the rest of my life.
I do my best to stay attractive and do stuff. Why can't I be with someone likewise?
OP, why are you assuming that any guys except these extreme types you're into do nothing but work and come home to watch TV? Do you have any idea how many guys your age don't even own TV's? I guess you wouldn't know, because you write everyone off without getting to know them. You're wrong about your assumptions about people, and because of that, you're missing out on getting to know some very cool people.
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