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Originally Posted by DanArt
More like 25-and up.
Here is the deal with women and birth.
1. You need to have at least one kid between 15 and 25. After that is gets easier to make them. That is what my doctor for my big sister said. Because of her age and the fact that she is healthy her body did not adapt to birth-giving.
Definitely not safe to assume they plan to head straight for adoption.
A lot of posters on this thread seem ignorant of the fact that the number of older mothers have been on the rise for some years. There is a higher chance of birth defects than for younger moms, but the truth is that the vast majority of babies born to older mothers will in fact be healthy and normal. Leave the fertility advice for the doctors who know what they're talking about.
It’s not impossible. My husband’s niece just gave birth to a nice healthy baby at age 37, she will turn 38 soon. He husband is in the same age or a bit older.
Definitely not safe to assume they plan to head straight for adoption.
A lot of posters on this thread seem ignorant of the fact that the number of older mothers have been on the rise for some years. There is a higher chance of birth defects than for younger moms, but the truth is that the vast majority of babies born to older mothers will in fact be healthy and normal. Leave the fertility advice for the doctors who know what they're talking about.
I had my kiddo at 42. He's a healthy and thriving young teen now.
I am also a single parent, with the benefit of now being well established enough in my career that I earn enough to comfortably support us while working what is practically a part time schedule in my profession, with lots of freedom to come and go as needed for him and (sandwich generation here) my elderly widowed mother. That would not have been the case if I had become a mom in my 20s or even 30s.
The OP may be asking about this in order to determine if the woman is someone he wants to date. In other words, this post MAY be more about whether a man wishes to start a family at an older age than about the woman conceiving naturally at an older age. A man who is in low 40's or even older may not wish to start a family at an older age. For example, if the woman is 39 and he's 45 when he meets her, it'll be a few years of dating before they get married, she would have the baby in low 40's and he'll be in his 50's by the time they have the baby. A man might not care to have babies and young children in his 50's. I know a couple that this happened to. They got married later in life. The husband expected to live the DINKS lifestyle, travel and enjoy romantic dinners and whatnot but...guess what? That isn't happening. Kids are a major financial decision. Be very careful having children just for the sake of having children. At an older age you need to think about the long term ramifications of raising children at an older age. Supporting them when you may be getting phased out of your current job. Taking on more debt when you need to think about retirement. Running around to baseball games on weekends when you'd rather be driving up to the quaint B&B along the river and hiking. Think carefully.
Yep, time to get the big "V" (snip) done. Otherwise, you'll have what is known as a mid-life crisis baby. lol
I'm sorry, but to all those who are trying to have babies at 40 or older, it just seems selfish to me. Like trying to achieve a social fantasy. I hope you are at least well off if you are doing this and you just dumped someone you claimed to care about just to realize some social fantasy. If I loved a man and knew he didn't want kids from the start, I wouldn't just suddenly throw him away at 40 because I wanted to fulfill some social objective. That is just I hope you are well off. Because get real. Do you all now realize you will be paying for this child's medical expenses, education, food, ect for 18-20 years. You will probably be working until you are at least 80 and unable to retire or end up in some horrid nursing home(unable to afford a good one)now because you are so sick from working until you can't. Or now you better hope your kid doesn't go to college and gets a good paying job so they can move you in otherwise you'll be homeless. That's just a sad way to live. I hope you are prepared for that kind of life of having to work your butt off until you're 80 unless your planning to pop out a kid because society told you and then ignore it for life.
Let these women live! If you don't like women who are 36+ and want kids, don't date them. It's ridiculous to have a multi page thread dissecting their motivations and desires. Let them be! Find someone who fits what you want and keep it moving. No one is judging OP for his desires, let's not judge those women for their desires.
It’s not impossible. My husband’s niece just gave birth to a nice healthy baby at age 37, she will turn 38 soon. He husband is in the same age or a bit older.
I'm sorry, but to all those who are trying to have babies at 40 or older, it just seems selfish to me. Like trying to achieve a social fantasy. I hope you are at least well off if you are doing this and you just dumped someone you claimed to care about just to realize some social fantasy. If I loved a man and knew he didn't want kids from the start, I wouldn't just suddenly throw him away at 40 because I wanted to fulfill some social objective. That is just I hope you are well off. Because get real. Do you all now realize you will be paying for this child's medical expenses, education, food, ect for 18-20 years. You will probably be working until you are at least 80 and unable to retire or end up in some horrid nursing home(unable to afford a good one)now because you are so sick from working until you can't. Or now you better hope your kid doesn't go to college and gets a good paying job so they can move you in otherwise you'll be homeless. That's just a sad way to live. I hope you are prepared for that kind of life of having to work your butt off until you're 80 unless your planning to pop out a kid because society told you and then ignore it for life.
If that's what will make them happy, and they stay active well into their 80s, happy for them. My friend's parents had her in their early 40s. She is now 38 and they are in their 82 & 83. I doubt she begrudges them for having her "late" (before it was common). She is happy to be alive, successfully, married, and happy.
You can plan life out all you want, there are no guarantees. A tragic accident could make a young 20 something mother end up in just as bad a situation as an older 30 something mother.
And why is no one talking about those dudes.. John Stamos and the Rock... having kids well into their 40s and 50s. There are plenty of Regular Joe's that do the same.
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